Not Getting Follow-up or So What Happened....

You know, I do go back and see some and not others. Especially if they are asking for creative advice, I want to see if they took mine! LOL However, i am really bad about going back and updating the So What Happened. But, if someone ever wanted to know what happened and sent me a PM I would definitely let them know, and it would probably remind me to go back and fill it in.
So, (raises right hand), I solemnly swear to try and be better about updating my So What Happened.

Maybe you can get more people to take the pledge! :)

More than anything, I use the what happened to respond back and clarify some of the additional questions that folks might have about my situation. I have found that some folks are quite quick to jump to conclusions that are not necessarily there in my post. But then I try to give lots of detail and then get blasted for adding stuff that isn't relevant to my question. Sometimes I add that detail to lend some insight on why I feel the way I do. I honestly don't know the best way to handle this...

I read the "So What Happened" but don't always do them on my own questions (!).

I do like when people write them, even if it's just for clarification.

I don't like when people use them to completely change the fact pattern of their question, or add in some major detail that should have been there from the get-go.

It's nice when people post what happened, but I know that personally I tend to lag on this, because it seems posting "So What Happened?" makes the responses dry up. And if I'm not particularly satisfied with the advice I'd already received, I hold off writing what happened in the hopes that other people will chime in as well. And then often I just forget altogether.

I wish that Mamapedia had a better way of letting the original poster dialog with their responders. I feel that having to edit the original post or add a "what happened" is kind of a clunky way of answering follow-up questions.

Lately there have been a few that I was waiting for the "what happened" on. It is disappointing when they don't follow up on things that we want to know. But that is the way the cookie crumbles here on the 'pedia sometimes.

yes I do follow some and I really like it when people update us on what happened. Sometimes it bothers me if they don't update, but it really just depends on what the topic is

No, I really don't. I guess none stand out to me so much I get curious and go back to look. I usually do't fill in my "so what happened" because I didn't think ppl really read them except to clarify points. Maybe I will start now!

Meh. Some people follow up, some don't.

It really doesn't surprise me when people don't, especially if maybe they didn't get what they wanted to hear.

If there's a question that really concerns or interests me to see the responses, I save it in My Stuff so I can easily find it later.

If there's a question that REALLY concerns me, I can always send a PM to ask if she's OK.

depends on the question. I am also guilty of not responding. I asked about my son taking his hvac test and never responded cause they waited another month and a half to test him. He did pass it but not the level he wanted.but I figure after a month and a half people are going to quit looking for the what happened. He thought he was going to take it a month and a half before he did

I try to fill in the so what happened, but sometimes I forget. I usually don't read others So What Happened unless I'm really really interested.

I mark some saved and go back to look. You can click on the name of the writer and see what other questions they have asked. Then you might get insight or at least know it worked out.

If it's something I'm following or really curious about, then yes it's annoying if they don't respond.. They took the time to write their question, post it, and read our responses... It doesn't take long to just respond with what they decided to do....
If it's a simple, easy question, then no I don't even go back and look..

Sometimes I go back and look at the "what happeneds" but only if I'm particularly concerned or curious.
I almost never, ever send or respond to PMs, I really try to keep all my activity on this site public.
I do think it's good manners to let people know what happened and whether or not the advice was helpful, I always do. If people have taken the time to read my question and offer their feedback and advice I think it's important to acknowledge that. And of course I send flowers, too :)

It depends. I don't always take the time to go back and post what happened because of time. I sneak in a few minutes here and there between being a mom so unless there was a PM waiting for me I may not always go back to post what happened. My thinking is that if people cared enough to want to know, maybe they'd shoot me a PM. Maybe I'm way wrong in that thinking though. Here and there I will post a "what happened" update but it's probably rare with me. I don't usually follow people unless it was something I could relate to and would like to know what others are saying.

I can honestly say that the only time I ever see a SWH is if I'm late to the question or if I receive a flower later on once the original poster has already put up a SWH. I answer so many questions that I it would take me forever to go back & look them up again later.

I wish there was a "so what happened" tab as someone suggested a while back. YES I try to go back and see 'what happened' when I remember to do so. And YES I am a little upset when there is no 'so what happened' to read. But oh well. I assume people maybe wrote a second post with their answer and a second question. Or they just didn't care to update us. So I'm bummed not to see a SWH, but oh well. I move on.

i rarely go back & see what happened, like pretty much NEVER. i'll do my own update for sure & i always read if they wrote it by the time i get to it, but nope, don't check back...1.) i forget and 2.) not to mean or callous but it doesn't really matter....sorry. :(

I don't often post follow ups because once you do you cant go back in there and post more. Then I forget.

Cheryl, Thanks for asking the question that I've wondered about too. I use the "save this" feature on the posts that concern me, just to be able to go back hoping there is a So What Happened. And you are right, many times there isn't anything listed. I've only sent a few PM's to say something like hope you're doing ok..and some do reply back. It does kind of bother me that some don't though. Just reminds me of when an invitation says to RSVP..some do, some don't :)

It is very rare that I ever go back to check the 'so what happened', in fact I don't think I have ever intentionally went back to check. I will sometimes look only if I get a flower & I may decide to scroll up. But other than that nope.

And I rarely post a question & doubt I have typed very many 'so what happened' answers.

I do follow up and look to see what happened. I don't get upset if someone doesn't but is nice to know that someone got the advice they needed, got pregnant if they were trying, had a successful surgery, etc....

Simply from a caring point of view...

nope, doesn't bother me....unless it appeared to be an abusive relationship. From last month, the boyfriend & how he was grooming his daughter really bugged me. & last night, there was a question which really hit hard...& I pray she finds legal & viable solutions to her situation.

But, for the most part, I have waaaay toooo much happening daily to worry about passing comments & responses!

Excellent question.....thanks for asking!

I really get frustrated when people do not update their response... if it's something I'm REALLY worried over I'll PM them.