No RSVP Is There Any Nice Way to Call and See If They Are Coming

Just tell them you just wanted to touch base with them and see if they got the invite. There's no harm in doing that.

Actually, according to Miss Manners, calling is what you are supposed to do if someone doesn't RSVP. It isn't tacky at all (what is tacky is not bothering to RSVP). Just be super nice and friendly!

We hardly got any RSVP's for my daughters birthday so I emailed, called, or texted the moms. Turns out the invites never made it home!! So I was glad I did!! I think it's okay to call and just see.

"Hey there. I didn't get an RSVP, so I wanted to be sure you received the invitation for my son's birthday."

This will usually result in an apology and an immediate RSVP.

Just call or email.. In the future consider also using evite.com.
I do special events and have found, for some reason people respond to evites better than paper invitations..

just call, but get used to it, many people didnt rsvp for me. i think most people think you have to rsvp only if you are coming, and i think some actually think only if you are not. i do think by including your email though, you get more responses sooner. it just seems people have no problem sending an email in comparison to calling.

My biggest pet peeve is people who don't rsvp. we had my husbands 50th party last sunday. 22 people rsvp'd they would be coming. 70 showed up. party was great and I planned enough food for an army so it was ok but really. this was adults and it very clearly stated on the invite to rsvp. drives me nuts. but back to your party lol. I would call the mom and say I was just making your plans for food and cake and trying to get a number down. she will say yes or no.

First of all, manners and common courtesy have gone away for many. It's sad. However, not in my family, we still hand write thank you notes and always RSVP.

We throw a lot of parties, some of which are pretty big and involve nailing down a firm number of people and being required to pay up to $25 per person.

Before I lock in my #, I call and/or email the people sho did not respond. Most of the time, they realize how rude it is to not RSVP.

Keep in mind, some people will RSVP yes and be a no show and some who said no will show up.

Go ahead and call, and I hope your party is successful.

I don't find it tacky at all to call a parent about a party. Many parents aren't "friends" but doesn't mean they're enemies either. They're just strangers but their kids play together. Call and remind the parents about the party and ask if they recieved the invite and if their son is able to come. Let them know some things you have planned and tell them how your son is looking forward to their son coming. Just keep it all up beat like you would for anyone else. You'll get your answer and have a great party!

I think it's rude not to reply to an invitation especially if an RSVP was requested. I always specifically ask them to reply if they are or are NOT going to make it, then follow up with needing a head count for party supplies or treats. This usually prompts more parents to call with a yes or no. So, don't feel like you're the bad one in this situation. They should have let you know.

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gaaahhh...I hate it when people don't RSVP!! My son's birthday party is also in the summer,and last year I had to phone all TEN people that he invited. Here's what I said..."Hey, this is Elijah's mom. How are you? We sent out invitations a couple of weeks ago to Elijah's party this weekend and haven't heard back from anyone! I know it's summer,so maybe it got lost. I am trying to figure out how much food I need to have for the kids, so was wondering if your son would be joining us this Saturday?" 6 kids showed up. We just sent out invitations last week for his party in mid August, so am gearing up to make phone calls again in a couple of weeks. :)
Good luck!
L.

If your son would miss having him, then call the M. and say "Hi M., I am trying to get a count on how many will attend my son's party, I am just calling to see if you will be able to make it. My son would love to have your son at the party" and leave it like that. If she didn't want to come, then you know, if she lost the card or forgot to send it back, then you reminded her

I would call. I would say I was following up with everyone that we sent an invite to and trying to get an accurate count for the party. I don't think it's tacky or bad etiquette.

Most likely, she'll be glad you reminded her - whether or not her son can go!

Good luck!
C.

I had 4 kids that didn't rsvp show up. I assumed they wern't coming~ I guess I come from the manners side of things and was shocked they showed up without rsvps. I didn't have enough favors. (I had planned on maybe one extra, not 4!) Always be ready for the unexpected if you don't call. Lesson learned for me!

I would call and ask her if she received the invite. Thats all. If you handed her the invite then I would still call and see if she had forgotten. It happens.

I agree with the suggestion to use Evite. I find it the easiest. For some reason people are lazy and RSVP'ing to an Evite is faster and easier than calling! (Some people still don't respond, though....)

Hi, V.M.
Call! Words will come. Making it personal might be the open door to
become friends.
Good luck. D.