First of all, please read LOVETEACHINGMATH's response and ignore everything else that people are saying about "common law" marriage. In Texas, it is called an INFORMAL MARRIAGE and the rules are that you must live together (not for any specific length of time) *AND* you must AGREE to be married, either by filing a legal notice of informal marriage or by both representing yourself as married to others (i.e. stating that you are his wife, filing jointly on income tax, etc.) He has not agreed to be married, so you are NOT married.
As for getting married, I agree with you that you should not have another baby with him unless he agrees to marry you. That is for the protection of you and your children! If he loves you and his son he will want to make sure that you are taken care of if anything should ever happen to him... As it is, you and your son will be left with nothing if he should decide to leave or if there was a horrible car accident or any other tragedy that took him from you.
As for you relationship, you have to follow the good advice that people are giving you... sit down and think really hard about your relationship. Are things good the way they are? Does he treat you guys well and take good care of you now? Then talk to him about really standing up to be a man and make sure that you will be safe and cared for forever. Then, whether or not you get married, make sure he makes you the beneficiary on his life insurance, bank accounts, etc. and writes a will leaving everything his estate to you or your son. And also make sure that his name is on your son's birth certificate or that he has filed a declaration of paternity.
Definitely explore with him what his reasons are for not wanting marriage. He obviously is commited to you after all these years. He wants to have another baby with you. Why the hesitation to get married? Then, let him know that he needs to take the legal steps to protect you no matter what. And, no, don't have another baby with him unless he marries you!
Good luck!
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First of all, please read LOVETEACHINGMATH's response and ignore everything else that people are saying about "common law" marriage. In Texas, it is called an INFORMAL MARRIAGE and the rules are that you must live together (not for any specific length of time) *AND* you must AGREE to be married, either by filing a legal notice of informal marriage or by both representing yourself as married to others (i.e. stating that you are his wife, filing jointly on income tax, etc.) He has not agreed to be married, so you are NOT married.
As for getting married, I agree with you that you should not have another baby with him unless he agrees to marry you. That is for the protection of you and your children! If he loves you and his son he will want to make sure that you are taken care of if anything should ever happen to him... As it is, you and your son will be left with nothing if he should decide to leave or if there was a horrible car accident or any other tragedy that took him from you.
As for you relationship, you have to follow the good advice that people are giving you... sit down and think really hard about your relationship. Are things good the way they are? Does he treat you guys well and take good care of you now? Then talk to him about really standing up to be a man and make sure that you will be safe and cared for forever. Then, whether or not you get married, make sure he makes you the beneficiary on his life insurance, bank accounts, etc. and writes a will leaving everything his estate to you or your son. And also make sure that his name is on your son's birth certificate or that he has filed a declaration of paternity.
Definitely explore with him what his reasons are for not wanting marriage. He obviously is commited to you after all these years. He wants to have another baby with you. Why the hesitation to get married? Then, let him know that he needs to take the legal steps to protect you no matter what. And, no, don't have another baby with him unless he marries you!
Good luck!