No Libido

Hi S.. I agree with the other posters. I stopped taking the pill, because I had no sexual desire. We just stick to condoms.

Hi S.- yup that sounds normal... and to be honest it's why i'm not on birth control. it's a risk, but we would rather HAVE sex and use condoms than me forcing myself to do it b/c i know i'll like the outcome.

There are tons of different formulations of birthcontrol pills. Tell your OB this one isn't working out.

Hormones do lots of things and influence libido is high on the list.

Hi S., if I were you I wouldn't look for the BCP to be the culprit. Desire hinges quite frequently on attitude and frame of mind. Having a baby and caring for one afterward is exhausting work and my guess is that you're tired and experiencing all of the stresses of a new mother. I'm sure the BCP could possibly be partly to blame because they muck around with hormones, but it might help if you try some other things. Here's what I do when I'm not necessarily "in the mood". I think about my husband, about all of the wonderful things that he does for me and my children every day. I think about how much he needs to be close to me intimately. I almost meditate on how much I love and need him and how much he loves and needs me. It usually helps to think about his obvious desire for me. It makes me feel sexy and that puts me in the right frame of mind. If I'm feeling particularly strained, I try to do some things that help me relax. I take a hot bath, or read a little bit, or spend a little time on just me somehow, even if it's just painting my toenails. I know these things are difficult to do with a small baby in the house, but I'm sure if you have a frank discussion with your husband about how you've been feeling and try to explain what it is you're trying to accomplish, he'll be more than willing to help with the baby. Once you have a chance to feel like a woman again (even for a few minutes) instead of a mom, your desire should pick back up.

Don't be too hard on yourself. This is so normal I think we all go through it to some degree. The important thing is that you don't let it make you stop being intimate with your husband. They really need us in that capacity. Sex is how men show love. Honestly. I applaud your willingness to continue giving your husband what he needs even if you don't necessarily feel like it.

Maybe you already have it, but I would recommend picking up Dr. Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. It's great. Even if you have a great relationship, it's still validation of the things you're doing right and she offers a lot of advice on getting yourself in the mood.

Good Luck with this, and remember, it will get better with time and a little bit of effort.

S., I have been there. I stopped using any form of hormone because I had no desire in bed. This was present even before I had kids but it got worse after my first child was born. So my husband and I started using condoms and the good old fashioned rhythm method. Incorrectly calculating the rhythm method is what got me pregnant with my second child! Now that I have my two (a little closer than I had originally planned), I use the paragard IUD, which has no hormones. It is working well after a few months of my body getting used to it. I do recommend it if you still may consider more children in the future but do not want the hormones. If you want more details about paragard, feel free to contact me through this site. I would be happy to give you more details. Good luck and congrats on the baby!

Get back to your roots and have a nice romantic date to get to know each other again. Things are different now with a child and you have to get your self out of mommy mode to relax and allow yourself to be seduced. Make sure to get a baby sitter. If nothing else chocolate covered strawberries and sexy lingerie may help to make you feel like a sexual being instead of just a baby maker. Also ask your husband to wear something that would normally turn you on. I'm sure he would have no problems with this. Four play, four play, four play.

I have been on both types of BCP's and personally, I had no desire for sex on either kind. I do have hypothyroidism which makes it even worse. I finally went off all BCP's in January and boy did that make a difference. I know there are varying degrees of hormones in the different brands of pills. I found a lot of websites that said that tri-phasic pills may be better suited due to the fact that they deliver a different amount of hormones every week of the active pills. It may be worth a call to your dr to see if he/she will write you a new rx for a tri-phasic pill. Best of luck!

After pregnancy hormones just aren't the same. Couple that with lack of testosterone from being on BCP for so long and you have no libido. Get your hormones tested, then if you are low on testosterone, get a good quality natural progesterone cream instead of chemically perscribed perscriptions.
Good Luck!

Hi S.!
Sounds like your hormones are all out whack. Check out BuffMother.com and see her natural supplements and her great system Hormonal Timing. I think it'll really help you out. :o) My hormones were all crazy with my first baby but after I learned Hormonal Timing, my body has been balanced with my 2nd baby. She's 4 months now and the libido is kickin' (LOL!) and my PMS symptoms are minimal now. Hope it helps!
~A.~

Yes this is a very common problem with many hormonal birth controls. I too had this issue for MANY years and did not realize it until I switched to the Mirena IUD. Our sex life is ten times better than it has ever been before.

I would talk to your GYN about changing to a different pill or form of BC. They all have different effects on different people, and I suspect your GYN understands the need for that NOT to be a side effect you experience!! :)

I had this too after baby number one. then got pregnant when she was 1, so i had number two and waited til i was done nursing/ The doc said it could take 6 months to get everything back to normal but it never did.
I went back last month to discuss it and had bloodwork done. Turned out i had low testosterone. she said I could go on testosterone but i didnt want the side effects.
she said a side effect of the antidepressant, wellbutrin, helps with that. At a low dose, there are no side effects in most people, and after one week on it, i was very close to what i was before. after two weeks, i was back where i was!

I have never taken the mini pill but I can definatley tell you there is a difference for me between not being on BCP and being on them. They def do decrease the desire. I don't know if there are any out there that do not have that effect??