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The technique doesn't change - but they become teenagers.
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Our DS is 11 months old, he's our one and only. At the 9 month check up, the ped had asked how he responds to "no", and we said, we didn't know, because up until that point we hadn't used it. We would just pick him up and move him along if he got into stuff that he shouldn't. Needless to say, she recommended that we start, for his sake and for ours. Well, it seems to be working.
Last night, he grabbed for my glasses. No, those are mommy's glasses, I need them to see with. They are not a toy. He smiled like this is going to be a great game, then attempted a second grab. No, those belong to mommy, you musn't play with them. Third grab, NO, that's enough now. Little one then threw himself to the floor, kicked and screamed in frustration for 10 seconds, and then moved on to playing with his koala. He didn't even attempt my glasses for the rest of the night.
Later, as he tried for the wastepaper basket. A no, that's dirty, followed by an "eehh" (picture the dog whisperer), and the basket was left alone, and we had fun with blocks.
Is this all there is to it? With enough repetition, will no, only have to be said once? Will certain things be understood to be off limits?
Does the technique change as they get older?
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The technique doesn't change - but they become teenagers.
Right now "no" is enough with no additional explanation, as you distract him and move him from the object. The key is consistently doing it each and every time so he learns what's expected of him, what things are OK to touch and those that aren't. As children get older you start adding the why explanation, etc., and it continues as long as you're raising them.
I have a different approach only because of the ease of finding yourself saying NO alot. I like to reserve NO for when there is something dangerous or harmful to the child or something that they could break. The other stuff I try and use the UH-OHs. For example child tries to touch the hot stove...NO but if the child is trying to play with your books/magazines....UH-OH and a redirection. This way they don't become immune to hearing and responding to No. Good luck to you
J.--SAHM of 7
Ahhh...if life were that simple.
I think it will work for now. Will it always work? Probably not. Eventually he will try to test that boundary and you'll have to up your game. But your headed in the right direction. :)
LOL @ Susan! She's absolutely right. You keep on doing what you're doing, but as for how long he'll hear "No" and actually acknowlege it & mind you...? That's a whole different topic.
