Nightmare on Potty Training Street.

Hi R., the only advice I have for you is to be patient, she will when it is time.. The reward thing is good tell her that if she goes on the potty that you will treat her out somewhere not expensive though or take her to the dollar store and buy her something of her own.. When you give her something to eat or drink wait about 30 minutes then start to put her on the potty.. I have 3 children and went through it so you will make it trust me.. It takes a little time but the out come is priceless.. Hope this helps if not good luck ..

Well, I tell ya what....my daughter did the same thing. Until we got some stickers in the mail from Kandoo. They have kiddie wipes and soap to make potty training fun. So, one day I just told her that if she goes on the potty she can put a sticker on the sheet. (1) if she goes pee pee and (2) if she goes poo-poo. So, every time she used the potty we would have to rush over to the refrigerator and put a sticker up and then we would have to show Daddy. Keep in mind she was using a little potty chair too. The big potty scared her for some reason so she just used the little one. As a matter of fact she just started to use the big one and she's 3 1/2. Good Luck!

It sounds like the baby needs a rest from the training process. I would give her 2-4 weeks off and then start again. Many kids are afraid of the potty for they do not like to eliminate and then watch it go away. Also, has she had any major changes in her life lately that could be causing anxiety like a loss of a loved one or move? Start looking for a good book to read about the process and let her come to the bath room with you to see that you use the toilet and how mommmy does it. She may then want to be like mommy!

Best of Mothering-
M., Mother of 4

I don't know all of the circumstances, so this may not be appropriate-- but I had a friend whose 3 year hold refused to go-- even though he know to and would go sometimes-- he even told her when he wet his pants that he just didn't feel like it-- anyway, she punished him. He would go to his room with no toys each time it happened (she of course made sure he knew why he was being punished-- not if an accident happened, but b/c it was on purpose) and in a week he was potty trained.

i would buy her some pretty panties and tell her that she cannot mess them up and that if she has a "dry day" you will reward her by doing something special with her, baken cookies, going to the park, carving pumpkins, what ever is cheap and relatively easy; another thing that worked for me is i would start taking away her favorites; (the dora videos worked like a charm for me) my daughter did the very same thing yours is; she didn't want to use the potty and defied me on it so i did the panties thing and watched her deliberately stand in the living room and make a mess of herself. i kept my cool told her to pick out her favorite dora video and bring it to me; (she was geeked thinking she was gonna get to watch it after all when i told her no before) and she hands it to me and i flat out told her that instead of using the potty she messed up her panties on purpose so she was not going to watch the video at all that day and that if tomorrow she decides to have a dry day she could watch it before bedtime..(no it didn't work the first day, but i ended up with 3 of her favorite shows that she ALWAYS watched over and over again and refused to let her watch them she finally caved in on me!!)