Our 3 year old has been "day time" potty trained since about 26 months. However, she's still in a pull up at night. My Dr. advised not to worry about it until she began to wake up dry some nights - which has only happened one time!
Last night we were reading books before bed, and she got a dazed look. When I asked her what she was doing, she said "going potty". So... I THINK she knows that she can go potty in the pull up and doesn't get up b/c she doesnt "have to".
Should I just explain to her they are going away and she has to get up to go at night? Also encourage her with positive reinforcement (new panties, rewards in the am etc)
She does get up at night now anyway, but never goes potty. Any suggestions? I don't want to "push her", but she seems to know what she's doing, and at this point is just a habit.
Get a waterproof mattress pad, take the pull-ups away and after a few times of wetting the bed and getting soaked and you making a big deal of how disgusting it is and telling her that we go potty in the big girl potty even at night time she'll start going to the bathroom on her own.
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Same with my 3 1/2 year old. My older daughter went through this as well. Then it almost disappeared over night. I don't believe you can push this issue. At night time, they are in such a deep sleep that they don't wake up to pee. when she's ready, you will know!
I think it depends on your time management. Do you have time to wash sheets and plastic lined mattress pads every day for however long it takes her to stay dry?
I vote for night time pull ups for as long as it takes for her to stay dry all night. My grandson is 11 and still doesn't have that connection between the bladder telling him it's full and waking him up to go. He has seen a Urologist for this so we are on top of it. My 6 Yr. old grand daughter still wears a pull up and occassionally stays dry and is so happy with herself. J is 3 and wakes up often dry in his pull up.
So, my time is worth something and I choose to use my time playing, doing crafts, reading a book occassionaly, and sewing for the kids. I love doing laundry, it's my favorite chore. It usually never goes a couple of days with out being totally caught up, but I still don't want to wash peepee sheets every day.
I wouldn't push her. My daughter was day trained by 3, but it was probably another 6 months or so before she was night trained. It's different at night because it's hormonal. When she is capable of going all night, she will. My daughter was such a heavy wetter at night I didn't think she'd EVER make it through. I worried too. Then one morning she was dry. Then another and we made a big deal about it and she started wearing underwear to bed. In fact, she's only had accidents less than a handful of times. So honestly, I wouldn't do anything to push it. It'll happen on it's own.
With my kids, right after they were potty trained, I stopped putting pullups on them at all. I just always cut off liquids about an hour or so before bedtime, told them to take their "last drink of the night". Each of them only had an accident one time, and they're 6 and 7 now
Yes, she knows that she can potty in her pants with the pull-ups on.
What we ended up doing was letting ours "grow out" of the pull-ups....meaning we quit buying the next size up. She was using the pull-ups as a diaper anyway. One night, she grumbled that the "dora pants" were uncomfortable. I told her she could wear her "big girl pants" but that meant if she had to go potty in the middle of the night she'd actually have to get up and go potty, and not potty in her bed. She wanted to use OUR bathroom - I told her I didn't care, as longa she was going potty. That's what worked for us.
I wouldn't push her too hard about it - we never had any luck doing that.
Just a few thoughts, for what it's worth - and good luck!
My son is 6 and still wears pullups to bed! The doctor insists we shouldn't worry yet, but it is frustrating. For a while we couldn't figure out if he was just going in the pullups because he knew he could, or if he really couldn't help it. At this point I don't think he can help it. I really don't think there is much you can do except be patient. Our younger son was dry all night as soon as he was potty trained. That makes it even more frustrating that the older one still isn't.
I have twin girls who are almost 5 and one of them still wears a pull-up at night. We've tried several times putting her in panties to see if it would make a difference and she wet the bed each time. She's a really hard sleeper. You could test it out and put her in panties a couple of nights in a row and see what happens.
I too used the pull/easy-ups at night. What we started to do was make a HUGE deal about her waking up dry in the mornings and gave her a prize with breakfast (chocolate chips (yes, the baking ones) that I kept in the freezer at her level). Then we made the plunge...Yep, sent her to bed in panties. She wet the bed a few times (less than 5) and hated the feeling...Plus also knowing that she did not get the chocolate chips bummed her out. She is now 3YO and sleeps thru the night with no issues (knock-on-wood). Good luck.
P.S. Waterproof mattress protectors are a God send! Makes clean up a SNAP!
My oldest girl was the same. She was almost always wet in the morning. She is an early riser, so she was usually awake before I came in the room. On the mornings I would wake her up, she would be dry and use the potty. So we decided to test it out and put her in panties. Once in panties, she was staying dry. There might have been the occational accident, but not too often. But that is not always the case. Some kids take longer than others. One would start crying in the middle of the night for no reason. She wasn't really awake. She would need to go to the bathroom, but couldn't fully wake up to go to the bathroom herself, so I would have to take her. Listen to your daughters ques and trust your instinct. You know what is best for her and you.
C.
We stopped using Pull-ups. They are too much like diapers and my daughter was the same way. She used them like diapers because she could. I put a protective sheet on the mattress - so if there was an accident it didn't soak into the mattress, there were a few nights of sheet changing, but it didn't last long before she got it.
Good luck!
C.
She is in control of this one, not you. If your doctor isn't worried yet, and she isn't showing the signs of a 'dry' night, then I would suggest you leave it alone. Just because she is going potty during bedtime reading, it does not mean she will consciously think of it during her sleep. For some kids ~ that connection can take some time, especially if she is a deep sleeper.
I have seen children have potty issues from age 4 until age 9, even later due to heavy sleep or something more severe.
Let her come to this on HER TERMS. If she is training fine in the daytime, consider that an accomplishment and be happy with it. That right there is a huge milestone!
My son was fully potty trained before 3 except at night and for preschool, he didn't want to go at preschool because of a fear and at night, he just wasn't getting up. We stopped putting a pull up on him a few weeks ago and started sitting him on the potty twice at night, he would still be sleeping and be clueless....now, he gets up on his own, calls for us, we carry him in there and he goes and then off to bed. I would try that, try putting her on the potty for a few nights....and not have her wear a pull up....and then every morning make a huge fuss and tell her how proud you are!
