My neighbor just had identical twin girls. She has two older boys also. We aren't very close at all....we'll speak when we see eachother outside, but that's about it. However, I really want to do something nice and helpful for her without being "creepy" =0) I know I would have loved to have the help of a neighbor when my children were born. Any suggestions?
I'm a mother of twins too and I think that people bringing meals helped me the most, you could also get her a book on twins, The book Ready or Not, Here we Come by Elizabeth Lyons is humorous and it helped me when I thought I couldn't do it anymore
Hi, I think there are several ways to do something for someone that you really don't know that doesn't make you seem creepy. A nice gift basket with something to pamper herself is always nice. It doesn't have to be much but something like pedicure items, bubble bath with some candles so that she can relax or just anything depending on your budget. It doesn't have to be anything big. Always drop a card in the basket with a hand written note saying "If you ever need any help you may call me and list your number". I think that this you make her feel that she was thought about. Hope this helps
Hello M.,
Being that you said you were not close I would probably recommend A nice gift card and maybe some flowers. I would not recommend you make any food for the family because althought it is a nice gesture if she does not know you like that she may take the food and just toss it. Plus you don't know if she has allegies to anything. I know when I had my baby my neighbor and I really didn't speak except for hello or goodbye and she brought my baby like two outfits and a card I thought that was nice!
prepare a nice caserole or 2...so all she has to do is pop em in the oven for dinner. if you're going to the store ask, if she needs anything...milk, eggs, juice, HEAD ACHE medicine. Go over and see if she needs a hand with some house work, laundry, dishes, vacuuming. just because you've never been close before doesn't mean she won't appreciate the offer and you never know...you might get to be good friends.
A meal is always a welcome (and nice, but not creepy) gesture! ;) Or, maybe you can offer for the older kids to play with your child for a bit to give her a little break (at least she'd only have to deal with the twins for that moment). I'm sure she'd appreciate any gesture from a nice neighbor (and fellow Mom)! ;) That's sweet of you to try to think of ways to help out a new Mom!
Ask her if there's anything she needs help with. Even somethings as simple as preparing a meal for her family, taking the dogs for a walk, or grabbing her mail for her could be a huge help.
Hi M.
Maybe you could take her a little basket of stuff and include a coupon or card that offers help when she needs it that includes your name and # etc.
I have used and would recommend to any mom with multiples..the Podee bottle sold at Babies R Us...you can find it online too. Giving that as a gift would be a blessing.
Good luck!!
J.
Make a meal (casseroles, dessert, etc.)
Offer to watch older kids.I know you work full time and do not know her that well though. But thinking back when our second son was born, I would surely loved that:)
