J.T.
you're both in shock, just give it some time.... i'm sure he didn't mean to be negative, i'm sure in time you will both grow to love that baby, it's just gonna take some time. and don't feel guilty - BOTH of you made this baby. we, too, found our we were pregnant with our 3rd, after several miscarriages and procedures with a RE, about 2 weeks after we decided we were done trying, we were content with our 2 little boys - and we were gonna be grateful we had them, and carry on with life. i had almost convinced myself of how great it would be to not be pregnant again, or have a newborn again, etc. - when i found out. dh was thrilled right away(he was actually out of town when i told him), i was too scared of another miscarriage to be excited. but, she is now 2.5 years old, i FINALLY have my little girl. all this to say - just give it some time, and hang in there :) congrats!