New Husband and Baby on the Way

Get your daughter very involved with planning for the baby. Let her know she is going to be Mommy's big helper. We had my daughter help us put things together for our son (having her hand us the parts we needed, stuff like that). We always referred to the baby as "Our Baby" so she felt like he was hers too. Make sure when the baby comes she gets a lot of attention still and ask her to help get you a diaper or wipes, remind her how big of a helper she is. My daughter is 6 and she is such a big help with our 8 month old. It just comes naturally to girls, They are little Mommy's.
As far as the changings and night time feedings, it will all come back to you. It's like riding a bike ;)
Congrats on your new life :)

no matter how well you think you have yourself mentally prepared, it will be different. and like all other moms with more than one, you'll figure it out for yourself, and it will be wonderful. don't spend one more second worrying about THAT aspect. you've got too much to be happy about to waste this exciting time on angst!
khairete
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Don't think of it as splitting your time, think of ways to share it. The nitty gritty of life will be accomplished, because it has to be, but when you set aside time with your sweet ones, to read, listen to music...the sharing becomes the glue that keeps you sane...Help your daughter look to this time of sharing as a lovely time for her too. Blessings to all of you :)

We have 5 yrs between our 1st & 2nd sons. We thought we were done after years of trying for #2, and had settled into the idea of not starting over... then here came #2!! LOL My oldest is SO great with his little bro. At 5 yrs and the younger is 8 mos, they play together so well and the oldest is a great helper! He loves to feed his bro & help with wipes, diapers, etc.
Once again we thought we were done (& were looking at permanent options) when we found out about #3- our baby girl due just 2 wks before #2's 1st bday.
Like some other moms said, the 2nd was so much easier than the 1st. We'll see how #3 goes, but I completely understand how you feel about starting over. It is a bit overwhelming at first, but you adjust as you need to and make time for both kiddos. There is a lot more they can do together than I ever thought, and they get along great!
I'll be honest that the first few weeks were definitely rough, but luckily I had my hubby home to help part of the time and my older son continued in day care (I assume your girl will be in school, so you have some time to rest when the baby will let you).

I felt the same way - I have 6 years between my children, and I was 34 having my second. my second pregnancy and birth was soooo much easier, I bounced back immediatly - also my second child was a much better sleeper and napper - I mean I was still up 2 times a night, you have to expect that, but things go easier with your second. Also I find that you don't need as much sleep when you get older.
Also like you my older child is at school during the day, so I spent time with my daughter then, when my son gets home from school I try to lavish some attention on him, not that I ignore my duaughter, but I put the TV on for her and spend time with my boy.

I think you both are ready! Remember it's not just you anymore and it sounds like you have a wonderful supportive husband and he'll help you. I'm almost in the same boat, I have a nine year old and my new husband has done more for her than her dad ever has. He's great with her and loves to just hang out with her. We just started trying for a baby, and while on occasion I think do I really want to start over - I then look at my husband with my daughter and realize I'd love to give him a child of our own since he's so great with her (and she's not even he's by blood that is). I'm sure everything will be fine, just lay back and let your husband/daddy take care of things. You deserve it after being a single mom :-)!

Ange

You still have another 7-/12 months to adjust to the fact that you are going to be a mom again and bond with your yet to be born baby. And when the baby comes, I'm sure you will be more than ready to take care of him/her and will know just how best to divide your time between both of your child. Your daughter will probably be about 7 by that time and I'm sure that she will understand the new adjustments that have to be made and will love her new brother or sister just the same.

Congratulations on both your new marriage and the pregnancy. Take care.

congratulations on your marriage and the baby. Your concerns are very valid. I have T. kiddos and are 3 yrs apart. Let me tell you it is not easy at the beginning. You will be sleep deprived. The best thing is that children grow up fast and before you know it your baby will not have to get up in the middle of the night for feedings. Enjoy them because before you know it they will be gone to school.

The best of luck!

Just rmember that your love is not a set amount. It will grow to enclose your whole family and you will wonder how you ever lived with just 1 child. Each child is different so just relax and enjoy the adventure to come. Congrats to the whole family.