Good Morning K.. Jealousy is sometimes a given when a new baby comes home. The older child has been the center of attention for a long while then this new little squealing, pink cheeked bundle comes home.
Our daughter in law had Corbin be a part of her pregnancy from the time she started showing. She would tell him he was getting a new brother and they were going to be great buddy's. Corbin kissed his mama's tummy everyday before she left for work telling his brother bye bye too. So when Zane arrived he wasn't upset he was happy his brother had finally got out of mama's tummy.
I would try to get your little guy involved more with your baby boy, if he can sit with you while you feed him or hand you wipes when you change him. Make him your Big Boy Helper. We also told Corbin he had to be very Gentle with his baby, he was so tiny and Corbin was a great Big Brother. Sometimes the love pats were a little firmer then they should be so the Be Gentle was repeated alot.
If he hits the dog tell him he can't play with the dogie until he is nicer to it. If he hits at you, you must tell him hitting is not acceptable behavior for a Big Boy, then time out for 2 minutes, Calm But firm not loud or overly angry. Set your oven timer if you have to. Have you asked him why he wants to hurt Mama? Make her feel sad because he wanted to hit?
Everyone goes through adjustments, making time for your self, hubby, baby and older son is not always easy and wears you out big time. Sometimes a little one on one time with mom or dad will help, show them they are still very much loved and important to your family! If dad helps with your baby take that time to play or read to your son, have some mama & me time. One other thing we did do also was explain to Corbin his baby brother was so little he couldn't do everything like a big boy can, and we needed to protect him and give him lots of extra love so he would grow up to be a big boy like Corbin. When Zane slept we played games, colored, read stories. Just because there was a baby around we still had Nana time and fun.
I wish you the best K., Congratulation on your new precious little Prince. A Lot of times attitude is everything!
God Bless you and yours
K. Nana of 5