You have to learn to let go of some control.
Your older kids can do their own laundry, from start to finish, including putting it all away. No, it won't be done perfectly, and yes, you'll have to check on it and make them redo a lot....but how else do you expect them to learn how to do it?
Show them how to separate darks and lights. If you're one who likes bleach in every load of whites, I recommend that you be responsible for whites until they're a little older.
Show them how to correctly load, set, and start the washer. Turn the timer on so they know when the load is ready to switch over.
Show them how to move the load to the dryer (with a basket so things don't end up on the floor). Set and start. How many dryer sheets, etc.
Show them how to fold. Make them help you when you do it. Give them piles of folded things that go in their drawers.
Real life dictates that if you don't wash laundry, you won't have clean clothes to wear. If you don't hang or fold your clothes, they'll be wrinkled. So what happens? A couple of times, the kids wear a dirty shirt. Or a wrinkled pair of pants. And you carefully explain that if they want clean, non-wrinkled clothes, they are responsible for ensuring that their laundry gets done.
You're going to have to show them EVERYTHING. From laundry, to dishes, to vacuuming, to dusting, to cleaning the bathroom, and so on. Yes, it's hard. But they have to learn. My boys are 10 and 12. They clean their rooms, including vacuuming and dusting, wash, dry, fold/hang, and put away their own laundry, clean their bathroom, clean the kitchen, mop, vacuum, dust, mow the lawn, feed, water and clean up after the dog, set and clear the table, do the dinner dishes, load and unload the dishwasher....and probably a few other things I'm not thinking of.
Do they do it exactly the way I would do it? Nope. But the job is done, and even though it's not perfect, we have time as a family to do other things.
Let go of your need to ensure that every job is done just right. There isn't one adult out there that says "Oh, my childhood was awesome because my mom was obsessed with the cleanliness of the house and wouldn't let us clean or take care of our own chores!"
Don't end up with adult children who can't take care of themselves!