Nervous About Leaving the Kids with Daddy

Fathers seem to look after their children differently from mothers, but everything will be fine. They may be eating cheerios for dinner, and staying in their jammies all day, but that's OK too. As long as they're fed, safe and with Daddy, it will all be OK.

Relax!
Leave a note for him about the kids schedule, leave a phone number he can call of someone local that you trust if he has any hands on emergencies.
If he is a responsible adult I cannot imagine that anything horrible could happen that could not be easily remedied. It is a great experience for him and the kids, I mean things happen...maybe you would get sick or have to be hospitalized, better for him to have had some experience so he knows he Can do it = ) Great bonding opportunity!

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He will do fine.
You have to trust him at some point.
I had a 10 year old and a 15 month old when I had to go into the hospital for a week.
I could not reschedule. I could not micro-manage. I had no choice but to let it go and guess what? My husband did great. He didn't do things the way I would have done them, but the kids did just fine. My poor son had to get cold-turkeyed from the breast and my husband weathered all of that. He had a sick wife, two kids he wasn't used to caring for 24 hours a day. He did it. He was gone a great deal of the time for work, I was definitely the main care taker of the house and kids, but he did it all when it counted and no one was worse for wear.

I think you should take your test. Let him know you have confidence in him. Let your kids know you have confidence in him and things will be fine.
You're talking one night. I know you'll be worried, but let him step up.
He might surprise you.
I know my husband did.

Best wishes.

At some point, your husband is going to have to learn to take care of his daughters. He never will, since you're always there. You said he loves them, then he will not put them in danger.

Focus on your test, and let him be a father. I think we as moms, cause this. We know how to do these things, so it's easier for us to do them. Well, kids need a Dad. He should already know by now, but since he doesn't...it's the best time.

Holy cow! Other than the medical side effects, I think a father should be able to care for his own kids for a day/night.
You say "He will when he has to but I'm usually there so he doesn't have to very much" so.....STOP IT! Let him get a little hands on! Start now.
If it would make you fell better see if your mom or his mom can come over until the kiddos are sleeping. If you feel you will be too pre-occupied to concentrate on your test then you've GOTTA do that, right?

Go and let your hubby watch the kids. Let him know that if he needs assistance he can call someone in the family. While my hubby didn't watch the kids as well as I did (cereal is not a dinner food and clothing shouldn't be worn backwards or for longer than a day in my book) they all survived just fine and weren't any worse for the wear.

Good luck on your test.

Daddy's way does NOT = the wrong way.

Go for it. It's your turn for a break. Just tell him to call if he has questions. But make sure that once you leave you leave your worries behind you. Enjoy the break you never get. It's his turn to be the parent. And most importantly have fun. Your kids will be alright. I'm sure the worst that will happen will one, if not all of your kids won't get their teeth brushed. Kids are resistant and I'm sure if he has problems he'll call you. Enjoy your break.

I think there is nothing wrong with having the support system at the ready. Just tell him you understand the medicine has him at less that 100% and help is near, ready, willing and able. Hopefully, he is not the type that would be too prideful to call for help if he needed it. You either have to trust that he will be OK (and call for help if he needs it) or cancel all plans to have a life outside of mothering for the next 10 - 15 years.

Good luck on your test.

Leave a list of contact numbers other than yourself. Trust him to do fine. Dad's arent mom by any means, but I bet they will have a good time together while youre gone. Good luck on your test :)

I love that you are more concerned about your husband taking care of his children more than such an important test!

They are all going to be fine, he will not do it your way, he will do it daddies way.

Just tell your girls that daddy does not feel well so they need to help him, by being big helpers and being on their best behaviors..

Andy By the way, good luck on your exam and have a safe trip.. It is expected to be 103 here on Friday, so drink lots of water while you are here..

i feel this too whenever i have to leave DD with her daddy....

but what makes me stop worrying is the fact that when i am around i see my hubby taking care of her and playing with her...

my worry is his patience.. men are usually impatient..

Make your husband promise to call the family members if he feels unusually dizzy and sick.

Other than that...go...relax...enjoy a quiet drive to the Capitol ..and a quiet night in a hotel..and good luck on your test.

Believe in your husbands capability to keep the girls fed,clothed and loved. You may not agree with what he fed them..or how he dressed them but the loving part is soooo much more important. Let him know you believe in him.

Best of luck and best wishes!! (leave him alone with the girls more often to build confidence all around. You will all be more relaxed and happy if you do)

I think you have reason for concern, but ultimately he will probably be just fine. Maybe your family in the area can go over and help for a little while or if you are that concerned then just have them take the kids altogether.

In the end you have to do what you are comfortable with.

Maybe have a friend/family member call him or drop by while he is alone with the kiddos? Just keep reminding yourself that he loves those kiddos and will not let anything happen. Im sure you will come home to find everyone just the way you left them, no promises about the condition of the house. Good luck on your test!

how old are your girls? If we are talking 10 and 12 I would say leave them they will be fine. daddy can sleep on the couch from his meds and they can eat cereal. but if we are talking 2 and 4 have your family take the girls. why on earth would you not have your family help you. this is so much more important a reason to tap family for help than say a random night out.

If his meds are going to be effecting him that badly, then you probably need to line up some help with the girls. Being dizzy/feeling sick makes it really hard to watch the kids, and probably 10X that if he's not used to doing stuff with the kids.

Pre-plan some stuff for him/them, too:
Plan out meals and get everything ready for him. IE-make a casserole to pop in the oven, or clip pizza coupons and attach a $20 to it, with the pizza place's phone #.
Put together a couple of boxes of activities --1 box can have 1 new coloring book for each child and some stickers (if you think they'll fight, get them the same ones :). Another box could contain a movie (having them sit & watch a movie might not be the first choice, but having them be out of trouble and letting dad not worry when he's feeling sick makes it probably worth it, imo).
And/or have a relative come and take them to the park/movies/zoo, etc. (Money set aside to pay for admission, if needed).

They will be okay. Make sure the kids, if they are old enough to understand/help, know that Daddy is not feeling good and that they are to be on their best behavior and to help him out as much as possble, and not give him a hard time, because if they do, when you get back, the consequences will be tougher.