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you are correct to stay out of your children's disagreements. if you want to be sure of what happened at the neighbor's house, call up and very politely ask if your children have done something wrong, because you would like to address the situation with them if that is the case. tell them what your children said, and ask if there is anything you can do to help the adult relationship, since the boys normally have fun playing together. end on a positive note, with a thanks for help with the situation. a confrontation takes two people. if you remain positive and non confrontational, the neighborhood situation could evolve into something much better than it is now, with gossip and rumors flying, but no one really knowing what the situation is. unless you are planning to move, this is the only way to be sure your neighborhood stays peaceful. good luck!