Needing to Get Rid of the Pacifire....

I did my daughter a little at the time, "losing" it and trying to distract her with other things but not making it completely unavailable until it did not seem to be so important. It takes time for all of those things. As young mothers, we tend to want things done now. It took awhile to get attached to the pacifier, so it will take awhile to get rid of it especially at that age because you can't use any kind of reason then. Hope this helps.

Throw them all in the trash. You are correct about her no longer needing it. She no longer has the need to suck, which is what the paci was intended for. You now have a child who has developed a habit, and like all habits needs to be broken.

The paci is not good for their teeth.

Both of my boys gave their pacis up at 3 months.

I let my kids keep theirs until right before their 3rd birthday. They only get them at nap time, bed time, and in the car seat. When I was ready I used the wean dates in the Farmer’s Almanac. Online it is www.almanac.com look under advice "Best Days" If it says Sept. 17 just take it away that day and that is it. It has worked with both my kids for bottles and pacifier’s. Good luck!

I too think 9mo is alittle young to take the pasi away from her cause she still has her suck reflux and she will replace it with her fingers and then youll have a toddler running around with her hand in her mouth and thats even harder to get away from... just a thought!

My friend took her daughter to the build a bear workshop and they had about 10 pasi's that they put inside the bear with the stuffing (they let her do it) then when ever she asked for the pasi her mom would tell her go get your bear and she was fine cause she knew the pasi's were in there she is 4 and still sleeps with that bear it worked on her brother to! I thought this was the coolest way of getting rid of the pasi but of course she was past the suck reflux when they did this ...
Good luck to you and congrats on your little girl! babies are such a blessing from God!

I can tell you what I did with my son and I thought he would go to school with his. He use to have his pinned to him at all times. We got to where we pinned it to his bed and the only time he could have it is if he took a nap or went to bed. If he felt overwhemed and needed it he would have to go to his room for a bit. It worked! And soon he didnt need it at all.

Just my opinion... but I am a big fan of a pacifier until at least 12-13 months of age as they reduce the risk of SIDs.

But to answer your question... you could start by when she crys for it consoling her another way. And stating pacis are for night night. Then use them at night or naps only. Then decrease the use more and more. Little ones do understand a good bit. I hope this helps.

My little girl is 1 1/2 and I still give "nu nu" for night time and when her acid reflux seems to be overactive. I find it helps with that too.

Best of luck
-mb

Immediate thoughts are that she is too young. My 2 yr. old still takes his at night but asks for it during the day. It is a process and it has not been as easy w/him as the other two but maybe little by little we'll soon get there. But at 9 months, she probably still needs that sucking reflex.

I never gave my 2 children pacifiers so I don't know any firsthand advice other than just to weaning her off of it or go cold turkey. She's fairly young so it may not be as bad as you think.

I weaned my son from the bottle at 10 months old and it was a big feat!!! i am not saying your concerns aren't really big when i tell you this but the bottle is what i would worry about first.... then the pacifier... my son gave up the bottle but held onto his pacifier until he was too... sucking is comfort to your baby and although it may bother you to havet o see it,it soothes your child now your child wanting a bottle to suck on at bedtime is more likely to hurt your child's delicate baby teeth as the stuff your child drinks at night will eventually rot your child's teeth out... at about one year old i weaned my son to only using the pacifier at bedtime and then eventually he weaned himself from needing it at all he'd fall asleep playing or with a story instead of the pacifier

My daughter had her paci until a month or so before her 2nd birthday. We had her down to only having the paci in the car and evenings (didn't take it to daycare) when she was at least 15 months old. I guess she quit cold turkey, but it was her fault!! We went on a snow ski trip & I only took one paci. The first night there, she lost it! We turned that place upside down & never found it the whole 4 days we were there! I was not about to go out and buy another one, so we told her it was "all gone", because she understood that phrase. When we got home I got rid of all the other pacis and kept reminding her that she lost it, it was gone. She slowly stopped asking for it.

Hey S.,

You know there is a saying: you become like who you judge. I have learned that the hard way with my boys. Who cares what everyone thinks about what you are doing. It is none of thier business, right? Wouldn't you say that if someone said...OMGosh, I can't believe she isn't walking by now. My boys walked early: 9 1/2 mos and 10mos. Gave up the bottles at 9 mos and 10 mos and the both still have a binki: 2 1/2 and 1 1/2. Ya know, it is so easy to get so crazy about things when it comes to little ones. I think it is mostly our pride, at least it was for me. "I won't have my baby walking with a binki in his mouth or running around with a bottle or still wearing diapers at that age!" It's okay!!! She is your daughter and you are a great mom for thinking about it. I would just enjoy her and not worry so much about what everyone else thinks about YOUR daughter having a binki!

Honestly, I think you should wait until she is ready. her pacifier is her comfort right now. It is not wise to just take it away, it could have some affects on the child. Give it three months if she hasn't let it go by then try sending it to the "pacifier fairy". Pretend to send her pacy's of in the mail, and the "pacifier fairy" leaves gifts in the mail box for each pacy. It works but my daughter was 16 months before it finally worked. She gave her bottle up at 9 mos. but she just was not ready to give her pacy up.

We replaced the paci with a security blanket. Its one of those with the little animal head on a small blanket. She loves hers, hugs him all night long.

your baby will grow up so fast. you have the rest of your life to see your child without a pacifier. I suggest you enjoy watching your baby enjoy a pacifier. sometime in the years to come you will wish you could see it again.

Since you made the decision to offer her the pacifier when she was born, I'm afraid that 9 mos. is young to take it from her. By putting too much attention on it, this will cause your daughter more anxiety. You seem to be making this more about you rather than your daughter. There are things we adjust when we become mothers because it is for their well-being. To take something away from anyone that is comforted by it is selfish unless it is an extreme situation. I think most would say their children (ours also) willingly gave theirs up closer to 2 yrs. old. Send it out with the garbage or give it to Santa's reindeer for an extra surprise! Children younger than that would have no understanding of why you were taking it. Limiting her time to use it will be helpful, like at rest times or when she doesn't feel well. You will "know" when she is ready to give it up. Take it from a mother of several .. pick your battles carefully because in the long run - most aren't worth the effort and hard feelings. Don't waste too much time on this one, it's just part of her being a baby. They all give them up - I haven't seen a bride walking down the isle with one yet!

I just took the "noonie" away cold turkey. She never asked for it or missed it. Another way I have heard of is that you can cut the tip off of the end. It makes them not want it since the suction is gone. Or a getting rid of it in a creative way (ex. putting it under her pillow for the pacifier fairy to take away and leaving a big girl toy in it's place).

On the other hand, keeping it around at that age is not so bad. I understand that you do not like seeing babies walk around with it, but maybe you can just let her have it at nap/bedtime. Pediatricians have recommended that babies sleep with a pacifier since it lowers the chance of SIDS. Good luck and God Bless.

I feel your pain, my son refused his bottle at 11 monthes old, was completely potty trained by 18 mo. and still sucks a "pappi" at 2 1/2 (3 in December). I always thought that a toddler with a pappy was so awful and even judged the parents who were too lazy to do anything about it. And wouldn't you know it i now have a toddler with a pacifier. I have been going through a very ugly custody battle and when he is with me he doesn't take one but when he is with his father its all the time!!! Already he has a curve in his front teeth and cannot bite cause they dont close, and yes baby teeth shape adult teeth, it can also shape the bones in their mouth and the tongue muscles causing them to have to have speech therapy. I wish i had advice because that would mean i had already been there and done that. One friend of mine let her daughter give it to a dog, another one tied it on a balloon. Well,, my son knows it aint the only one.

I am like you - I don't like to see toddlers walking around with a paci in their mouths. But, I did still want it for sleep-time because my children all three had the tendency to try to shove other things in their mouths at naptime and bedtime, especially when teething. Pacis helped prevent that. So, I limited the paci to sleepy-time only. It didn't click that I needed to START that way until my third child, so I had to wean the first two off of having it all the time. At a very young age (6-9 mos) they can learn to put their paci down before being picked up out of the crib. I would start off by saying, "Put the paci down, and Mommy will get you up!" Then I'd playfully take the paci, place it in the bed, and quickly pick up my little one for our morning routine. After a couple of days, I would give them a minute or two to decide to put it down on their own.
After three or four days they knew that they had to put the paci down in order to get out of bed. They fought it some because I was breaking a pattern of behavior. So, expect resistance and fussing. But, be consistent and offer distractions. First thing in the morning is a great time to start because breakfast is a natural distraction. Then as she is playing, she probably won't think about the paci until she sees it. Then it will be naptime, and she can have it again. She'll be delighted to see it waiting for her in her bed. Even if you want to permanently wean her off of it, this might be a way to consider starting, so YOU have fewer battles to fight at once.

Yes, I've seen the 3 year olds with the pacifiers-its ridiculous! My daughter had her "bobber" until she was 13 or 14 mos-we started just letting her have it at nap and bedtime and in the car (she was going thru the 'I hate my carseat phase') then just nap and bedtime, then just bedtime, then one night we didn't let her have it at bedtime and she was fine! I was amazed at how easy it was for her. I've heard the sooner the better, so if you start now you're doing great! God Bless!

pacifiers are some times like security blankets. besides your baby is only nine months old. but dont ever let a kid have the pacifier after they are one and a half years old. cause them to have bad teeth problems in the future. but for now let it go. she is just a baby.

My son will be 8 months this weekend. He likes his pacifier, but he isn't dependent on it. It's sort of just his personality, because at 3 weeks he would take his finger and flick it out of his mouth.

Anyway... we are the same as you are, don't think that after a certain age (close to where he is now) they should have a pacifier. Mainly we are letting him still use it for a teether...he chews on it (poor thing got his first two bottom front teeth at the same time and now has a third one coming in). But we don't give it to him when he is playing, and I've even stopped giving it to him at church, or just if he is being still and quiet in general. He's gotten to where he will be quiet if I coax him too, without the pacifier, so I think we're making good progress. So, basicly, just limit how often she has it.

The younger you phase it out, the better, b/c they don't have too much of an attention span to remember they want it. But our son still goes to bed with his, and HE spits it out when he lays down. Good luck!

PS...Make sure though that you have other things for her to suck on, because a lot of times it helps with their teething. I am taking my son off of his because I was a thumb sucker until I was 12, because no one ever stopped me and it was such a habit. My son tries to suck his thumb too, and even though they do need things to suck on to soothe them, having something to suck on constantly can lead (not always) to bad habits that will do more harm than good...like my having to have braces. I ended up thrusting my tounge against my teeth so much I caused an overbite. Just a thought.

My youngest who turns 1 in a few days uses a binky and loves it. My first two kids kept their binkies until somewhere around 2 1/2....around that time, they became more of a fascinating object to play with as opposed a comfort thing. I have a good friend that took her daughter's binkies away when she had her birthday a couple of weeks ago and she just turned 3. Seriously, 9 months is a tough age to try to wean a baby from a binky. Little ones, especially during their first year of life have to go through so much from learning to sit up, crawl, walk, get their first teeth, etc. They need to be able to have a few of their own "security" things, which can include a binky, especially since you gave it to her in the first place. Don't be in such a rush to grow her up. The binky really shouldn't be an issue at this age.

I think we weaned our son from the pacifier between 4 and 6 months, since he'd discovered his thumb shortly after turning four months. I figured if I gradually stopped giving him the pacifier, he'd turn to other things and not really notice it, and that's what happened. He sucks his thumb or his first two fingers when he's tired or nervous, but that's not really that often, so when I see him sucking his thumb I figure it's about time to sleep. "Losing" the binkie can be a good idea, since children this age have object permanence but not an incredibly long-term memory. She'll probably move on relatively smoothly to some other comfort device. Our son changes his favorite toy or color about every month!

Unless you believe it may harm her in some way--after five kids, I say let her have it. Just because it may not suite you to see kids with one in their mouth doesn't mean it's a bad thing, what may be, though, is what they are made of. I would try to find one made of non-toxic materials.
Some children are just more orally needy than others, plus it helps during teething--better than her biting you! haha

Don't worry--I ate my words on a lot of things I said my kids would never do : ) Truth is, you just don't know until they get here.

I would just relax : )

--H.