Needing Advice for Unruly Toddler

Ignore your preschooler's tantrums...Kids throw tantrums because they work. They grab your attention and most parents give in to quiet them down or from being embarrassed in public. It's so easy to give into a tantrum that most parents opt to do this. DONT give in. If you don't give in or pay any attention to this habit your child should quit becuase it is no longer working. When he's throwing a fit walk away from him, and pretend you can't hear or see him.

I deffinitly agree with ignoring the tantrum. The minute you show him you are paying attention to his tantrum, he is then recieving the negative attention that he wants. My daughter just turned 3 and my son is 15 months and my daughter started doing the same thing when my son learned to walk and get into her things. I ignore the situation and walk away, now if it does not stop I would then pick her up and set her in the time out chair or rug ( depends on the tantrum, for safety) and then I tell her that she needs to stop and if it does not stop by the time the timer goes off (3min) then she stays longer. This is all I say to her and everytime she gets up I say nothing to her and return her to the chair or rug. I would suggest praising him for his good behavior until the tantrums subside. Rewarding to soon can be confusing and it may make him confused as to what he is getting rewarded for. I know that it is really hard. Best of luck.

1-2-3 Magic is also in book form, fyi.

I walk away, over, whatever, from the kids while throwing fits.

I have 5 children and have seen my fair share of tantrums to say the least. I must say that the one thing that works best for me and works for all my kids even my 13 yr old is 3 strikes your out. I have been using this for a long time.I know they have a video on it not sure of the name. But it works, you tell them they get three strikes and they can be for anything for talking back, to not listening,not picking up, to tantrums. All three strikes can be for different things or the same.You pick what you want them to be for. When they get to 3 they get a time out. It took my kids one day of testing me to see if i was going to stick with it and in a few days they caught on. I have used this system since my now 13 yr old was about 7. I have recommended this to most my friends. there is something about it that works. They will usually get to 2 and stop all together misbehaving be cause they know what comes next. Give it a try.

I have been using 1-2-3 magic! You really need to watch the Video. You should be able to find it at the library. It works great for any age. F.

I wish someone would have given me the advise you are getting. my son is now 10 and for the first 6 years I did all the worng things and created a monster. I did everything I could think of, and what I was doing was making it worse. I also tried the 1,2,3 method that only worked once in awhile, he used to throw things at me , destroy his room, kick and scream. He would get violent at daycare towards the teachers and the other kids. Now at age 10 he is so calm and he is so smart with such a great personality. He was diagnosed with ADHD which may have been part of my problem. I think that the walk away method will help you a lot. Get some head phones and listen to music or start singing and dancing to avoid the tantrum. I wish I would have early on, it did worked once I figured it out! but I guess it's never too late. Good Luck and be patient!

Try ignoring the trantrum. Walk right over him if he's lying on the floor and don't look at him while he's trantruming. A lot of the time they just want attention, they don't care if it's good or bad attention. My son started throwing trantrums a while ago and this technique broke him of it real quick. We still have the occasional scream or two, but nothing like what we did have. Another thing to try: My mother used to put my brother in his room and tell him when he's done throwing a trantrum, he can come out. Then she'd close the door and leave. I guess she said that worked.