C.L.
I am an attorney, although not a family law one. Unless your ex-husband has surrendered his parental rights or had them taken away by a court I don't think you can choose a guardian for your two older children if something should happen to you and he remains alive. You and your current husband can certainly choose a guardian for your child together and there are many compelling reasons for the two of you to have a will and address these issues head on. Good for you for looking into it-so many people choose to ignore it. You need an experienced family law attorney. Some of these issues might be more complex than a standard will so you might need to spend a little extra money. I would interview several attorneys to pick the one with whom you feel most comfortable and can meet your needs within your budget. Here are a couple of other names recommended by an attorney friend of mine: Karen Tarrant (Grand. Ave. St. Paul ###-###-####) and Tammy Gerten. Good luck.