Need to Talk - Morton,MS

see an endocrinologist who can help you with hormonal regulation. It sounds like you're really having a tough time. 3 hrs sleep and 4 boys is a recipe for a health disaster. Good luck to you. You're in my thoughts.

Wow, you are a lot younger than me, but sometimes I feel the same way. I had uterine cancer and had to have a hysterectomy. I am a lot older than you (52), of course happy to be alive, but the doctor won't put me on anything either so I feel nuts myself. I cannot explain to people how frustrating it is. My emotions are way out there sometimes, I want to be with my husband physically, but the old me who craved that, is not there and I cannot sleep either. I cannot help, but sure can understand. My life, it is fine.I am happy to be a cancer survivor. But I have two older sons also so I know life with boys. Keep writing and writing, keep a journal, I am trying to get exercising and wish that this didn't happen, but am moving on. If you need anyone to talk to go ahead and write. You are not alone.

S.

OK -I don't re what kind of doctor you're seeing, but any OB-GYN who won't put a young woman on supplemental hormones after a complete hysterectomy should have a formal complaint filed at best -UNLESS you have some cancer issue or something that could be exacerbated by it. My mom had a hysterectomy at 41 and they put her on hormones. Go to a different doctor and talk to them about that AND the depression. Try some of the anti-depressants out there, and if there's a reason you can identify for your depression, see a therapist. You also need to talk to a decent doctor about your sleep problems.

Mom, it is good that you recognize this in yourself and know you need help. Call your regular Dr and ask for a referral for someone who can see you for depression they will properly diagnose you if this it what it is. Realize it may need to be a Psychiatrist if he/she feels you need to be put on anti-depressant, but it will help you. If he/she will not give you a referral, go to a new Dr. You can't live a normal happy life and be a good Mom too if your are so down and tired all of the time.You are young and have so much on your plate with what you have been thru and raising 4 kids. Please do this for yourself if not you for your family. Hugs to U.

Ditto what Janey said, see a psychiatrist, and an OB and if you cannot get a referal from your doctor, get a new one!

While you are at it, take the boys to see the same psyciatrist! ADHD runs in families! I have head that the great failure of clinicians who diagnose ADHD is that they don't ask the parents at the diagnostic conference which one of them has it too, so that they can get the treatment they need to help thier children! Depression is very common for both adults with untreated ADHD and untreated hormonal issues, like those when you have just had a hystorectomy, so do not be one bit ashamed to go for help, and not take no for an answer once you get there...you have a tripple whammy, because caregivers for kids with ADHD also frequently suffer from depression!

Get some help for you, and some better help for the boys. Also, contact NAMI in your area. (national alliance for the mentally ill) they can give you referals for psychiatrists, and have really good classes that you can take as a care giver to help you with resources and ways to take care of yourself!

Social workers at childrens hospitals can help you to access services for the boys if you continue to have trouble, they can point you in the right direction!

Look up CHADD on line (children and adults with AD/HD) and see if there is a chapter in your area (there are in most places) and you will find support there too!

Good luck, it will all be OK if you can find the right doctors to help, and a little support out there.

M.

It's time to go Dr. shopping, M.. If it isn't your Gynecologist, then it neesds to be, and I recommend a female as she is better able to understand what you are going through.

Several of the women I know have had a hard time with menopause and need an anti-depressant as well as hormone replacement therapy, so that maybe something that you need as well.

There's no shame in it. If you need it to be OK then you just do. If it will make you happier then it will make your family happier.

I am praying for you, M., and good luck.

L.

Find a friend who is in your area take the boys to her and go to the Wal-Mart and shop. I always find someone to talk to at Wal-Mart.

I would go to a different doctor. After I got each individual hormone checked and went on hormones I feel 100 percent better. Sleep will help lots and you get more after hormone levels are evened out. Join a gym and get some adult interaction.

Can you switch doctors? At 28 years of age I am sure your hormones have been thrown into a mess. There are medications and herbal remedies that could help with those hormones.

Get help with your boys! Trade babysitting dates with a friend so that you can get time for yourself. If you can afford it hire a teenager to help a couple of days a week. I'm sure you need a break!

Let him put your on something - prozac, xanex, something. If he won't do something for you, get to a dr that understands your condition

I second Patty and Janey's posts! -- Hang in there! You'll get through this. But do take care of yourself!!

Go to a health food store or a Spouts if you have one in your area and get a Natural progesterone cream called "Emerita pro-gest". Use it as directed for perimenopause. It's pricey but could really help you out. You can also get it on Amazon online and you can check out the reviews: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000IMQE5U/ref=cm_cr_mts... . This stuff helped me so much.Easy to use. You just rub it into your skin twice a day.
Best Regards,
C.

I would find a new doctor that can help you out. I just had a hysterectomy and if my doctor in some way made me feel the way I think your doctor is making you feel I would be finding a new doctor in a heartbeat. My doctor left my ovaries because of my age (29).
Good Luck.