B.W.
We have done the big bra thing- you get a big bra and you tell everyone to not cross their legs and if they do then they have to wear the bra- it is fun and people forget about it after awhile and then everyone notices and that is fun-
Also you could take her out of the room and see if anyone noticed what she had on - ask questions lilke- what kind of earrings is "bride to be wearing?"
what color is her shirt? how many rings is she wearing-
If is just friends (like her mom) you could play a game show and ask her questions about her relationship and have the other people write on a card what their answer is and then have her show hers. when did you first kiss- where did you meet-
and then you could get more in to detail and personal.
Have fun!
If you have a couple shower you can have tons more fun-
I have suggestions for that one!