Need Some Advice !!!!! - Corpus Christi,TX

Hi J.
I want to start off by saying your doing a great job. I have a son with special needs so I know how challenging it can be just to be a mom. Kids (regardless of any health issues) will act like the world is on fire and you are the only one that can save them if it will get your attention; so if you trust the therapist that she goes to I would take their advice on how to handle the situation there. My four year old son does the same thing when his emotions are running high or he is stressed. His therapist come and get him and tell him “Mommy can walk you as far as the door, then you have to come do your work” and ya he screams, cries, kicks, and has even tried to run but after the first ten minutes and I know it can be a LONG ten minutes he settles down, acts as if nothing has happened and cooperates with the therapists. As far as at home, I bet you have more of a routine with her then her father does. Not time, you could both spend an equal amount of time with her and if you hold to a routine and he does not then she is going to pick you. Kids feel safe in routines, especially special needs kids; because they are never sure of what their body is going to do next therefore they look for that security in what happens outside of their bodies, their day to day life. I suggest talking to her OT and PT about the problem. The OT should be able to give you some insight on what else you might be able to do to help with the outburst. Ask her about some transition activities you could do with your daughter to help get her ready for the next task. I hope this helps. Good Luck and KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!

Hi J.,

You have your hands full, pat yourself on the back for all your hardwork. My daughter went through that phase about the same age. When she acted out at daycare I gave her a hug and kiss and told her why I needed to go and that I loved her very much and I would be back at the end of the day. I then walked away without looking back. I also rewarded her for doing things on her own at home. Anything from picking up her clothes to going potty on her own. Rewards would be claps and smiles and hugs. I stressed praise for being such a big girl and doing things without mommy. It is tough to walk away and it is tough to not get upset when they are constantly underfoot. But you can do it. Good Luck!

I know it feels like she is in your shadow 24/7. I have three little one and my two daughters follow me every where including the bathroom. My oldest is in school and sometimes when I get mad at them for always being stick to me like glue I just remind myself that there will be a day that they aren't going to want be to be there by my side and I just get sad. So I know that it is tough but hand in there. I know you probably don't think so b/c she has c/p or because she shy but there will be a day that she will be on her own. My son (the oldest) is speech delayed and I remember the day I first left him at school the first day. You thinking crying. No way he looked at me and said Mommy I'm okay, leave. Broke my heart. He was three years old. We only get a few years short years with our children cherish them and remember that. My son never really cried when I left him but one time when he did I remember just getting down to his level and let him know that mommy loves him and that I would be back. When you do leave, leave quickly and quitely. Don't let it stretch out it will make it worse.

In the mean time make it a point to take care of yourself go get your nails or hair done. Go to the mall or something else that you like.

I hope it helps,
L.

Mine went through a phase like that too, I think many of them do and they eventually will get through it. I dont recal doing anythign in particular to make it better, it just took time.