Need Mojo Help

If you can, plan date nights. Nothing big and fancy, just adult time. That may help you get in the wifey mood!!

When I was on the pill, I was rarely if ever in the mood. So I've been pill-free and birth-control-hormone-changing-free for a while now. Perhaps that's an issue?

It'd be great if you could get a night w/o the kids, so when your husband came home, you surprised him with you sitting on the couch wearning something cute. If he makes you feel beautiful and reacts the 'right way' when he enters the house, then you'll maybe be more likely to surprise him again. I say "the right way" because there have been times that I wear lingeree and my husband walks right past me not smiling or acknowledging me and that makes me feel terrible. So be able to predict what your hubby will do, or else you could face dissappointment.

Another thought - you don't necessarily have to feel "it" when it comes to your sexual side. But know that he's feeling "it" so there are plenty of things that you can do for him to make him happy even if you don't get turned on.

A psychological way to get in the mood, is to pretend that you are. Try two hours before he comes home start pretending that you are on and the real thing usually follows. If you are able to 9if your kids go down early enough, take a bath or do whatever you need to. (ignore chores!!!!) and treat yourself. That will help you better fully get into the mood.

When my girls were little we "scheduled" it. I know it how it sounds but it worked for us. When you have little ones at home all day and he's working all day, life is tiring. We started a 48hr rule. Which meant every other night-and there was give or take-some days one of us was just too tired so we moved it to the next night and then back to our schedule.

After I had my baby last fall I had a hard time getting in the mood...I went to the dr and she told me it was b/c I was extremely dry. I didn't feel dry...she gave me a cream to use every night for 3wks and by night 3 or 4 I was in the mood...without my husband having initiate anything...I felt normal again!

I haven't had "mojo" for years. My testosterone levels are on the low side, and you can take injections (very large needles into the muscles in your buttocks) to help increase them, but they're very dangerous if you conceive a little girl because they will start to emasculate her.

So, I've opted not to do anything right now.

I don't think my mojo was helped by being diagnosed with cancer after my daughter's birth. One of the first things the Oncologist's office asked was what contraceptive we'd be using. I looked at the nurse and said, "People with cancer WANT to have sex?". Apparently they do. I didn't.

We've been talking to my OB/GYN about it for years since it's been a problem. He understands that men and women are just different. A lot of women I know just force themselves to do it to keep their men happy.

try spicing it up send the kids to grandma's for a night or add a new toy. Seriously if you are dry add a lubricant and find a nice pheramone candle to light before he comes home. the pheramones help get your body in the mood.

if you have a tv or computer in your room find a romantic movie to watch or a porno which ever you tend to like better. Sometimes a visual helps. just don't rule anything out until you try it. you never know what will trigger your buttons after having kids.

I agree with MegandOllie, I find if you take even 15 minutes for yourself (extremely difficult I know) and take a bath or hot shower it makes a world of a difference.
I've noticed as a new mom myself that stress can put an increased burden on your mood.

I just had a Tasteful Treasures party at my house two weeks ago and I think a lof of the women there have the same problem you do. I haven't gotten my "products" I ordered yet, but I was told that the Nymph cream works really well.