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Updated on September 08, 2008
S.P. asks from Saint Louis, MO
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Hi, my name is S.. Let me start by telling you my dillema. My son goes to a daycare in Creve Coeur. I work a full time job. I am VERY unhappy with the daycare that he is at. Let me tell you why: Back in June, his finger was smashed in a door and ended up having to have stitches, because a the director slammed the door on him. Ok, an accident, I get it. But, my little boy was hurt! Anyway, #2, on Friday my husband went to pick him up and he was in a dark room all alone, half standing in a stroller, not strapped in, and screaming and crying. He and my daughter looked for him for a few minutes (there are several rooms there and all the doors are locked from the insides and closed to help "contain" the children from roaming the halls). So, he was screaming for about 5 minutes before my husband found him and got him. He was all alone!! Isn't this neglect?? What am I supposed to do?? I really don't want to send him on Monday, but don't know what else to do... I really would like to just stay home with the two of them, but money is already very tight.... I just don't know how to trust anyone with my kids anymore! (his first sitter walked in the snow and rain with him and resulted in him being sick CONSTANTLY and me having to miss work). I just can't find a good sulotion... Can you mom's help me out? By the way, I live in the Overland area... Thanks, S.

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S.G.

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S., mistake, neglect, call it what you will, the day care provider should never have left your son in that situation. The first concern should be for his safety, nothing else. His safety is number one and obviously this facility is not the best place for him. Come Monday morning you have only 2 choices. You can take him back and worry constantly or you can take some time off of work and find a better solution. I know money is tight, but when push comes to shove you may just have to miss a few bills for his benefit. Dont go back to work until you find a solution that you are comfortable with. You need a solution that will give you peace of mind while he is taken care of in the manner he deserves.

As far as work goes, I know the economy is slow, I know things are tight, I know.....

But, ask yourself what is of more value. I think we both know the answer. I hope you find a solution that puts your mind and heart at ease. Take care and good luck!

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S.T.

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I would not send him back. Also, I would file a complaint with the State about the fact that your son was without proper care and left alone! Stay home next week and devote ALL your time to finding a better solution. Have you looked into home daycares? They usually have less kids so they get more one on one attention. Just a thought. Good luck.

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D.F.

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1. Doors should never be locked on either side, and why wasn't the staff aware of where your son was. I've run an inhome daycare for more than 15 years and never have I injured a child (sure other kids hit, bite ect..) but the adults shouldn't be the ones injuring your son that said.
DO NOT take him back a red flag is going off for you right now and you need to heed it. I've worked in Daycares before my own children were born, and yes lots of stuff happened that's why I chose to stay home with my kids and
do inhome daycare maybe that's one option for you. Also try
call your local schools they might be able to help you find a great provider in your area or try checking out the people reg. with mamasource for child care.
Good Luck
D. F.

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M.N.

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I know I am responding Late, but I hope that you have reported that DayCare for their lack of care and responsibility on your child's behalf.
They also should have to cover the charges and be held accountible for the pain and suffering your son endured from the stitches. I am not one for pushing lawsuits, but when it comes to Children, I am all for Childrens Advocacy and they should be sued. Especially for your loss of income.
I am seething for your misery.
God Speed, M. N. I wish I lived closer because I would love to help you out. I will pray that someone answers your Nanny request very soon.

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