My daughter will be 3 in Feb. and im having trouble potty training her. Everytime I try to get her to go on the potty she yells at me and says no mama no potty go away. I've tried everything. Please Help!
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My daughter has been doing very good with potty training. She still has some accidents. Atleast she is finally interested in going on the potty. Thank you so much for all your responses and some great ideas on what to do. They were very helpful.
Quit trying... seriously. The harder you push the longer it will take her. Just let it go and she'll do it when she's ready.
Our family tradition is to have a jar of m&m's on the sink next to the potty. We tell them whenever they sit on the potty they get 2 m&m's. When they go in the potty they get 5. It works for us.
The most important thing is to not make her feel stressed about it. Its a big thing afterall, and I imagine rather scary. I also have a 2 year old daughter who will be 3 in February. We are slowly working on it. Im not forcing the issue whatsoever. As of right now, she goes potty in her pullup, and then goes to the toilet. I know that this is pointless, however, its a start. Just make it no big deal for awhile. Talk to her about it outside of the bathroom environment. Mention that she is growning up and becoming a big girl, and soon it will be time to start using the potty. You could also use the sticker chart if she likes stickers. Ive heard alot of people use that with great success. Let her pick her own stickers out at the store, and hang a piece of paper up on the bathroom door. Let her know that she can only pick a sticker to put on the paper when she uses the potty. Again, leave it casual. Dont stress it. Let us know how it turns out for you! Oh yeah, ask yourself how many children you know of that started kindergarten in a diaper, not that many Im sure. She'll get it :)
Amanda
some times that first time training can be pretty hard.I don't know if you do this but it might not be a bad idea. Put her potty in the rest room where you go. It is part of our human nature to always compete. When she see you go she'll wont to go just because she saw you go. It might take a little while but it will come. Don't push her to hard. I don't know if you have carpet or what. But my firdt two were boys I let them walk around with nothing on at first. Keep a potty in the area where she freqently play.
My daughter's 2 1/2 and is still touch and go with the potty. All I can say is be patient. No matter what anyone tells you most kids aren't potty trained until after they're 3. I think Anette's idea with the M&Ms is absolutely fabulous and will be doing that one myself! I tried putting panties on my daughter during the day and just ended up with a big mess to clean up! You've just got to stay on her about it and no matter where you are or what you're doing if she says she has to go you have to get her to a bathroom. Even if she doesn't really have to go. Good Luck! :)
My daughter turned 3 this past August and she is doing the same thing - she refuses to go on the potty - I ended up just putting diapers back on her, as she would change her own pull-up if she peed!!! Now she is trying to put the diaper on herself, as I tell her I will only help her w/ big girl pants.... not working!!! When they are ready, they will let you know. Does your daughter stay dry through the night? If not, hold off a little longer till she has a couple dry nights in a row!
I was in the same boat as you about 2 weeks ago. My daughter will be turning 3 on the 20th of this month and I finally had had enough. A friend suggested removing the diapers and putting on cloth undies and bribing her with m&m's every time she went to the potty. At first she balked but then I gave her a taste of the m&m's and she was hooked! She has had a couple of accidents but now she even goes to the potty chair by herself. Of course, she still asks for the m&m's and I'm not sure how to go about removing the habit but she does forget every now and then. If there is something that she absolutely loves, maybe you can substitute it for something healthier?? Anyway, good luck!
Hi S.!
I'm on kid #5 and I swear by the Duke University Family Series Tape/DVD "It's potty time" I know there are alot of tapes/books out there but this one is alot like the "Baby Songs" series if you're familiar with that.....it's not a "you should do this" or a how to tape.....it's just alot of fun with music centered around the topic of going potty. The librarian at the Boynton Beach/Jog Rd. branch said they will look into ordering it.....not in their current inventory. You can get it cheap off ebay or for under 20 at most bookstores. The other reward systems work great if your pottier wants to go....otherwise this tape might help you get things jump started.....they all do it in their own time so don't get discouraged! My now 13 yr old son told me he wanted to be called Matt instead of Matthew when he was 3....I told him Matt was a big boy name and he didn't go potty so he wasn't a big boy yet.....he started going potty immediately and never had and accident! Good luck!
Ok...my friend says to try putting cookies on the back of the toilet. This way..when she sees's the cookies,or goes to the bathroom, she'll get rewarded. My friend says that is how she potty trained both of her girls. I will keep asking around for more suggestions.
C. A
My daughter is 3 and went through the same phase. She would call the potty bad and refuse to use it. I stopped pressuring her, but started offering to let her wear pretty panties like a big girl. She started wanting to in her own time. Bowel movements however, are another story. That is still an issue!
hi S., not sure if your three year old is still in diapers or not but you might want to try ( during the day when your at home ) put panties on her with no diaper and when she has to go pee she may tell you. if she does run her to the potty really quick. when she goes make a big deal about it and reward her. she may be so proud of herself that she might want to start using it by herself. if she doesnt ask to use the potty and ends up wetting her self then you can just say no hunny you dont want to pee in your pants we pee in the potty so our pants dont get wet and yucky. she might be so used to going in her diaper that she sees no reason to try to use the potty, but if you dont put a diaper on her she will soon learn that its much more comfortable to go in the potty rather than have wet pants.. of course you will have lots of accidents around the house but its can always be cleaned up :) good luck
She is just not ready... We tried to start potty training my son when he first turned 2 and he would do it every once and a while but nothing steady... Until one day he came to me and said that he had to go potty in the bathroom and ever since he has been going greag in the potty with only about 2 or 3 accidents ever... I am of the mind set now that you just show them what to do and when they are ready they will do it themselves... He still wears a diaper to bed...
Good luck...
K.
35 year old mother of 2 my son is almost 3 and my daughter is 9 weeks, I have a wonderful husband too...
Hi S.. It sounds like she has a little fear of the potty. Try using it in front of her and act like it's fun. Then give yourself a little reward and verbalize this in front of her. Example" Mommy was a good girl for going potty on the toilet, now I can have a (snack, toy, etc.)." If this doesn't work, try getting the smaller potty seat or trainer at Walmart. She may not like the regular toilet because it's too big. Sometimes they have a fear of falling in or they don't like the sound of the flush. Good luck on this.
