Need Help Potty Training a Stuborn 2 Year Old

It's good you are taking it more slowly but when the time comes I recommend the DVD Elmo goes potty. It did wonders for me. My son would hold for days and suffer letting go. It was terrible. After seeing the DVD it just was amazing how he let himself relax and go when ever he needed.

My son Riley was almost potty trained at 1 1/2, so I thought! He then wanted nothing to do with it so I kind of waited it out. I was getting a little nervous, but then a week before his 3rd B day all of a sudden he was completely potty trained I mean everything! Even over night. I never put pull ups or diapers on at night once he started going because someone had told me not to and that was the best advice ever! Yes I did have to wash his sheets a couple of times but really not that often. He is 5 now and rarely has any accidents. I guess it really is true that they just all go at their own speed when they're ready, they're ready. And boys seem to start a little later then girls. Good Luck I know it's tough

He just might not be ready yet. New baby and potty training...that's a lot for the little guy. I have 3 boys....my first was fairly easy to train but didn't until he was ready at around 3.5 yrs old. My middle boy...oh he was HARD! He finally got totally trained before he turned 5. Maybe just take a break for a little while and see what happens, maybe that's all he needs. Oh and this helped me ALOT, when we were potty training my oldest we did just the underwear well after the first mess, I had the thought of putting the underwear on then a pull up over it. This way they still feel the wet underwear but mommy doesn't have a big puddle to clean up :-) Good luck and try not too stress yourself out over it, they can sense that also.

Boys do take a lot longer, sometimes until they are 4+ to potty train. I know you are doing all the right things. Just he senses your anxiety, and may not see potty training as fun, and rewarding. Just try to be very patient. It may take him longer because you have a new baby at home. The transition from being an only child to big brother is a tough one. And then to add potty training all at once may be too much. He might know he's pushing your buttons and enjoys the attention he's getting. You could still encourage potty traing at constant times of day-wake up, lunch time, dinner time, bedtime. But I'd say hold off a bit until he's really used to the baby being home. Then go full force with the potty training. If you still are having issues, they have a variety of videos, books, ect. at the Library you can borrow. They usually have a lot and can also get some from another Library if they don't have what you want.

It sounds like your son is not ready to potty train yet. Each child does it at their own pace.

My son will be 3 in October and it's the same thing. We've caught 3 poops but no pees. I just don't pressure him. I ask him all the time if he wants to sit on the potty and his response is usually "NO!". I've been told by EVERYONE boys usually potty train better closer to 3-31/2 but to keep asking and trying. We just went to the library yesterday and got 2 books on potty training. We have been reading them no stop and now he has been talking about them a lot. We've taken the books on the potty several times as well to read and it keeps them there longer. Plus, maybe with the new baby, he still wants to be your little baby too. I don't know your household but keep that in mind. I've read that happens a lot when a new sibling is brought into the household. Give him some space and keep asking. Good luck!

I'd say he's just not ready and the more you push, the more he's going to resist. Kids need to be both physically able and mentally into it for it to work. I had two in diapers for the first 8 months of my second child's life and it was challenging (and expensive) but when my oldest, at 2 and 8 months decided she didn't want to wear diapers any more, it was a total breeze. She's motivated herself, not by me or rewards (although we heartily offered stickers after every successful trip). If you can just drop it for a bit, I'd say that's your best bet. It will be worth it in the end. Also, he's definitely still adjusting to having a new sibling and that is a tough time to try to "train" a two year old to do anything. Good luck and hang in there. He won't be in diapers forever.

He's young. My son was 4 before he was trained and I hear that's pretty common in boys. Introducing the idea is fine, but I'm not sure he CAN tell you when he needs to go, he may not connect the urge/sensation with the need to go on the potty yet.

I wouldn't disparage him and I wouldn't rush him or it will backfire on you.

Good luck.

Hi P., from my experience being a Preschool teacher for over 15 yrs. with 2.9-5 yr.old kids, what you're dealing with is a child who is reacting to a new baby in his world. This is a common thing, a new baby comes home and the older siblings regress a little, AKA, not wanting to potty train. Try to cut him a little slack for the time being, it will pass. As long as you include him with your time spent with the new baby and also set aside some special time with just your older boy without the baby, he'll come around. Good luck.

Are you sure he is ready? My son didn't "get it" until he was 3.6 and it was like a light bulb went off when he did. I wouldn't use pull ups though - just be willing, and I know it's hard with a newborn, to change lots of wet underwear.

I began potty training my son about a month & a half before his 2nd b-day. I would put him in big boy undies so that when he had an accident he could feel it. I also put him on the potty every half hour and would give him a book as a distraction. Of course every time he went on the potty there was a big celebration of song & dance. It wasn't simple, but by the end of that week, he was potty trained.

he's not ready.. period.. keep encouraging him, have his dad take him in to show him what to do, but if he's not ready, he's not ready.. you can try putting regular underwear on him and see what happens.. he may hate it enough to start peeing on the toilet.. he may not.. my almost 4 yr old just did this - he refused to pt, then one day it was " I don't want diapers anymore" and he was trained almost instantly.. it's amazing.. have patience!!

Hi there-

I am a Mom of 2 and trained my daughter at the same age and during the same time, my son was about 2-3 months old. She loved this book about going to the potty, we had 2 of them,
one was an Elmo book that made different sounds: "Potty time with Elmo" and the other was "its potty time for girls" but they also have one for boys. We would read these on the potty and at bed time and as much as we could. I also did the stickers which helped. Its so hard when your nursing the new baby, I spent a lot of time sitting on the edge of the tube nursing my son, waiting for her to decide to go. It did eventually work, hang in there! He will get it. Sometimes if you just drop it for awhile, he may come around and decide to do it on his own. That was always my Mom's advice, it worked with my brother, who was very stuborn and hard to potty train. Good Luck and congrats on your new baby!

I'll just throw in one more voice and say that he's probably not ready. 2.7 yrs is pretty young, so I would just back off. My son didn't potty train until 3.7 yrs, and once he decided he was ready, he pretty much just started and never looked back. Sometimes the more you push, the more they resist. Let it go and wait for him to decide when he's ready.
Goodluck!

Hi P., I have a 3 year old son (birthday was in May) who is not yet potty trained, I am also pregnant and am having a daughter on Monday (scheduled c-section). I also plan on breastfeeding. When I found out that I was pregnant I had a big rush feeling of having to potty train my son before the baby was born. I went out and bought different potty seats and pull-ups, movies, books, etc. Nothing seemed to work, he just wasn't ready. I was talking to my aunt one day and she gave me some good advice. She told me, "Becky don't stress out about it. How many kids do you know of that go to kindergarten in diapers?" He will potty train when he is ready, and not when we try to force it on them.

I think that when you're really serious, pull-ups only impede. I would put him in undies. Have TONS of undies! They are definitely going to get wet. But, he made need that to get him serious about it. He won't like being wet or dirty, and he'll start wanting to avoid it. Good luck, keep us updated!

I have had lots of experience with potty training and for the most part boys are not usually ready until close to 3 years old and even some not until 4. I hate to disappoint you but he will only potty train when he is ready. It may be that there has already been to much change in his recent little life. He is no longer the "baby" because of his new sibling, he may feel if this is the way to stay the baby then he will hold on to it. I would pack away all the potty things and let him adjust to his new role, then try again in another few months. Good luck.

Hi, i also have a 2 year and 10 month year old girl. I has the same problem. I told my daughter she could have 2 M&M's for pee and 4 M&M's for poop. It works great! She loves getting rewarded for being a big girl!! Good luck!

I have the most subborn daughter, she thinks she is the princess and runs the house. I tried potty training her right after she turned 2 and failed. I put the potty away for about 3 months and tried again. This time I had a doll that peed in the potty, when the doll peed we had a huge party with noise makers and dancing. Well she saw all the attention that the doll was getting and wanted it for herself. She will be 3 in February and is totally potty trained.

On another note...maybe you should wait a little while until he gets used to having anew sibling. He sees the baby getting changed and most of the attention from mom. My sister and I are very close and she has a 2 month old baby. My daughter sees him getting the attention including diaper changing and she has asked on several occasions for me to change her!

Good luck!!!

PS I am a mom of 3 - Devin 5, Donovan 4, Myalyn 2 (going on 16!)

Sam

Stop trying...It sounds like he isn't quite ready yet!

It sounds to me like he isn't ready. Unfortunately, we can't just decide that it is not convenient anymore for them to be in diapers. I am a Mom of two, and a day care provider, and I honestly believe they won't do it until THEY are ready!

Sounds like he's not ready. And you might not be either. Having a new baby in the house is stressful enough for you and for him. Give yourself a break and wait a little while. When you have the time to put him on the potty every twenty minutes or so then you should try again.

This is probably not the best time to potty train him. He's still adjusting to his new little brother and that comes with all sorts of behavior issues. I would suggest forgetting about it for a few months and then try again, after the shock of the baby wears off. I have 4 boys and I always had behavior issues with each of them when the new one came. It usually only lasted 3 or 4 months. Good luck and congratulations!! :)

Hi, I can tell you with my experience is that your son is just not ready to potty train. Bringing a new baby into the home can cause set backs to fully potty trained children and for boys it is not unheard of for a boy to not train until 4 years old. My suggestion is to wait for your child to let you know that He Is ready, at that time it will go pretty smoothly.
Good luck!
K.