Need Advice on Children Not Sleeping at Night?

i try to ignore it too, but it is hard. our 20 month old was sick last week so we tended to her everytime she cried out. now that she is feeling better she is sleeping better, but still wakes up a lot. we go to check on her and then leave her after a few minutes. she cries, but we let her cry it out. we close the doors and wear earplugs!! she goes back to sleep in a few minutes. we give her a snack before bed so i know she is not waking due to hunger. they get into a bad habit of not falling asleep on their own. it is hard, but you need to try to break it.

You may want to try letting them sleep with you for a few night cause sometime they just need that mommy time. I don't think that giving them milk is bad I still do that if my daughter needs it and she is 5. Hope that helps a bit good luck

I don't see a problem with what you are doing especially with the one year old. You are showing them you care and you are making your life easier at the moment so you can get some much needed sleep.

it will be hard but start out not giving them the milk then stop going in there my youngest did that for about a week cried for about 30 mins then as the week went on it became less and less till he stopped all together

Someone told me that if someone in your family isn't getting enough sleep (including you, your kids or your partner), something HAS to change. You'll be a better mom if you get enough sleep and they will be healthier if they learn to sleep on their own now. That's my opinion. Everyone feels very strongly one way or the other about letting kids "cry it out" and its a very personal decision. The timing has to be right for you and your kids. I would recommend Ferber's book "Solve Your Childs Sleep Problems". At least to see what he has to say, because I know he's very controversial. The main thing is, you're probably not doing yourself or your kids any good if you try to let them cry it out, but always give in. I think you need to either decide that you'll get up with them, or definitely decide you won't and stick to it. I know its hard and I only have a 10 mo old, so I'm sure it gets even harder with older kids. "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is supposed to be another good book that might help. Good Luck!