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I had a similar problem. The child I watched would also hit and would be very aggressive to my daughter. My daughter who is not usually physical would then hit back, and she even got scratches from this child. This child was an "alpha" type child. Always had to be "first" and the one in control, and it was not just because of her age. It was her personality, which her family shared with me, and hoped I could "cure" for them. Surely I reinforced the "rules" of my household while she was in my care. To no avail. I finally had to stop watching this child. It was discussed with her family, and we all jointly agreed. My own girl was all the happier because of it. In my case, I needed extra money too, but did not want my own daughter being attacked in her own home and be exposed to this. She was not happy while I baby sat this child. It created upheaval in our home and I did not want it happening any longer. This is just my experience. I'm sure you will get a lot of tips here. Good luck.
~Susan
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