Need Advice - Springfield,OH

My six year old has been through these phases, though I don't think as severe. I just ignore it or explain it's not appropriate and soon he stops when he stops getting a reaction. They seem to pick it up from kids at school/daycare so this is probably why you haven't had any complaints because the other boys are doing it, too. Hang in there, this too shall pass!

i have no advice, i just wanted to tell you that my son does the exact same stuff! he is around the same age as your son, so maybe its normal? if anything works for you, let me know!

It's gotta be a 5 year old thing! My son is the same way and it drives me NUTS! I also worked with kids for 14 years and it's just a phase where the younger ones think "fart", "poop" and "pee" are really cool words. My son also went through the "boobie" thing. I didn't make a federal case out of things because even negative attention is attention and that is what your son may be looking for. He thinks these things are cool so he wants everyone to think he's cool. I just let my son know that touching others is not appropriate and turned the tables on him and said "would you like it if someone touched you in a place you didn't like to be touched?" and he got the drift. As far as the other words I was blunt with him and let him know that we all fart, poop and pee and it's not as big of a deal as he thinks it is. I also remind him there are better words such as "pass gas", "toot", "go to the bathroom" etc. But again, I do let my son know that talking like that is not appropriate and it will not be tolerated. Be patient...it is a phase. It's a headache, but as long as you are consistent like you say you have been, you'll be okay!

It must be the age. My daughter's vocabulary has had these words in silly context to her peers for a little over a month now. I went to the library and got a bunch age related books on our bodies and read them to her. It seems to have helped, I haven't heard anything like that from her in a week now..Crossing my fingers this means we are through it.

Hi T.,

I was experiencing the same problem with my two boys after they had picked the language and use of up from the cousing playmate. However, for them to clean up the vocabulary a bit, We told them if they cannot spell it, they could not use it! Amazing it worked, although they still slip on occasion, it has helped quite a bit, so I am thinking it might be a kid phase they go through as boys. I have noticed a great important with the 'don't use it if you can't spell it' discipline, hope this helps!

Your Mamasource friend,
T.

Curious that you find poop, fart, butt and boob disgusting.

If ignoring it hasn't worked perhaps giving it total attention might??? Something like assuming each time he uses any of those words he needs to go to the bathroom and taking him there??

I personally wouldn't give it too much thought. It is probably a phase and other kids his age probably giggle over it. He is IMO just trying to be funny.

Chances are there is a reason his sitter and teacher aren't having a problem and it's nothing more than the shock value that he places in your reactions to his words, when all else fails ignore it, act like he said nothing whatsoever out of the ordinary, now mind you he will probally kick it up a notch cause making mommy and daddy laugh or yell can be very amusing to a little kid but if you continue to ignore it the novelty will soon wear off and it will stop. good luck.

At 5 yrs old, it's pretty hard to assume that they fully understand the implications of what they are saying. At least he's using the words in context. If he were saying those words in a nasty context then you'd have something to worry about and start wondering about his influences. For now, just blow it off. If he sees that he's getting a reaction from you he'll want to do it more because he thinks he's being funny to everyone.(I know, easier said than done). I agree with whomever said earlier that if you're not getting complaints from his teacher than what he's doing is probably pretty standard for a kid his age. If it gets to a certain point where it's disruptive to the other kids or he's out of control with that language, his teacher will be sure to key you in on it.

For what it's worth, I remember being that age and thinking that those words were funny. It's just a matter of maturity which is hard to expect from a 5 yr old let alone a 40 yr old guy. I don't think that boys ever grow out of thinking that boobs and farting are funny)

As far as touching your boobs, i don't know what to tell you about that. It's funny how much humility your kids teach you, huh? I'm the kind of person who can just laugh things like that off knowing that it doesn't matter what other people think, but if it's a big problem for you, just continue to explain that it's inappropriate. He'll get it eventually.

T.:

I have a 4 year old little girl who does the same thing! She does not talk like this around anyone else, but when she is at home with us. She puts that same words at the end of sentences and songs. My husband used to think it was funny, until he realized how much she was doing it and I thought it was gross and not appropriate for a little girl. I think that it is just a phase. She does not do this at daycare or outside of the home, and when she does do it, like you we are correcting her and telling her that it not a nice way to talk. She does also say things like she likes my breast and talks about pee pee. Which blew me and my husband out the water! But I think that this is a phase and that she only does this at home as inocent fun...even though I can't stand it and we are telling her that it is not nice to talk like that, I do know that she is not doing it as much. Hope this helps in knowing that you are not alone.