Many people turn to alcohol, tv, video game etc. to escape. Some people feel trapped by their situation. The though "this isn't what I signed up for" goes through a lot of peoples minds. In addition to AA other options include finding out what is truly the reason for him drinking. Is he drinking because he is unhappy with his job, his home etc.. There are other options. Many people lack a hobby or something that gives them a bit of inner peace and because of that they drink. I am only relaying my experiences, I am in no way an expert on any of this. When my Husband hit the point of walking in the door and having a drink and then more and more, I started trying to push a hobby of some kind. It turned out he was very unhappy with not me but our situation. The house we lived in, the job he hated, he just felt trapped. We ended up starting a business out of our house. It was something to focus on to keep us busy improving not only ourselves but our situation. We both quit drinking on a daily basis and have found a focus on improvement instead of an escape that was actually making our situation worse. I hope this helps, feel free to email me off site if you would like any additional information on at home business. I have a large network of different business owners and may be able to connect you with a good match for you and your husband.