Hi J.:
I was a Dental Assistant for 4 years before I got pregnant with my twins... we recommended for children to come for their first check up at age 3, unless there was a problem going on. Most of the time, if you wait until they're 3, then their social skills are a little better, and they generally do better at the dentist office. Unfortunately, I don't know any doctors in the area, b/c I am from Georgia, so I can't help you find a doctor. But I can tell you that if you take your daughter to a PEDIATRIC dentist, it will be FAR less traumatic on her. B/c that's all pediatric dentists do is see children, so they are better equipped with fun stuff for the kids, and things in general to make your daughter more comfortable. Hope this helps you. And so you know, I am a 23 yr. old stay at home Mom too, so if you ever feel like you're going too crazy, feel free to get in touch with me! :) My email address is ____@____.com luck to you and God Bless, H.