Nap/Sleep Issues 23 Month Old

You are not alone! My boys go through stages as well. If you have a rocking chair, you could try rocking her to sleep. You might want to have a winding down routine before naps. Lunch, read a book, rock to sleep. My BIL swears by this one (and I admidt, I've tried it a couple of times). He'll give is child a cookie or some candy, something with sugar in it. Then he'll let them play a bit, read a book and rely on the sugar crash to get them to relax and go to sleep.

Can you put her in a stroller and go for a walk around the time she would normally nap? Maybe she'd fall asleep in the stroller.

My daughter went through a napless phase or two. She eventually came through, but it took a while. I suggest just putting her down or lying with her at the same time every day (1 or 2 pm maybe?)whether she sleeps or not. I know the hyperactivity must be driving you bonkers, but at least you can lie down and be off your feet. Maybe put her in the crib with you in the bed? If she climbs onto your bed, fine. Good luck. It's always when Mommy is pg with another that these things happen, lol. It's like they know!
Btw, some people I know would suggest putting her down at 630 on those cranky days! Who knows? It just might reset her clock somehow.

my son is very similar & will be 2 in may... I already have a 6 1/2 month old. for me walks in stroller help and I can pull stroller into mudroom and he stays asleep,,,, but you are in NYC so maybe you cant pull stroller into apt etc...also driving helps him sleep. and maybe its time to put your foot down & do some extreme sleep training. And I was never a big CIO mommy ...I co-slept till he was 9 1/2 mo..and one month preggers. And yes you do have to deal with crying yo break that. I suggest picking a late time like 1 or 2 pm for a nap to start and just making her stay in crib. Leave the room and come check on her every 5 min to 10 min. I also lie on floor with son and let him hold my arm till he falls asleep ...which he will gladly do after I let him cry for awhile. You have to do it....she is wired and they get so bonkers and no fun....they need sleep and you need rest ...need a break. Its tough but DO IT.