My 2.5 year old always wants to be right under me. I stay home with him and sister all day so I'm hardly ever away from him. When I sit on the couch he sits in my lap, when I lay down he tries to lay on my chest. When we go to bed at night he sneaks in the bed-I'll wake up and he's under my arm. When I try to get him off he has a fit or goes limp so it's hard for me to move him.
What can I do to stop this? It's driving me crazy!
Indulge him. Every time he gets needy, stop what you are doing immediately, get down on the ground to his level, stare at him in his eyes and give him undivided attention. Do such a good job at it that he'll tire of it eventually. Try teaching him something. Make him say his alaphabet or count to 20. Try to get him to draw a perfect circle. He should start favoring a little independent time after that! Good luck.
Be careful with what you ask for...one day you will want him to cuddle with you and he won't want too :)
Just make sure you don't make him feel rejected....
Just tell him "you're a big boy now. I love you, but now it's time to play in your room (or color or playdoh or whatever) and leave it at that. If he throws a fit, let him throw a fit.
He sounds really cute! :) He'll be 3 soon enough and want to do everything himself!
It's normal at that age. All mine have done it. Currently 2 (almost 3) year old is doing it. I let her be by me, but if it's getting to be too much, I say something like, "Hey, I'd love it if you sat right here" as I pat right next to me. Instead of saying to stop doing something, I tell her what I"d like her to do.
It may just be a phase.
I say try to work "with" it because soon enough he will have friends, a car, dates, sports and you will be chopped liver. :)
Maybe try to reassure him constantly.
"How about you sit NEXT to mommy on the couch?"
"When mommy lays down, you need to lay NEXT to mommy because you're too heavy to lay on my chest. It hurts. I love you." end w/a kiss.
Give him positive reinforcement throughout the day:
a kiss when you pass by
a pat on the head when you're doing laundry and he's playing w/his toys.
When he sits on your lap on the couch, sit him next to you w/a book.
Some kids are just clingier than others.
This too shall pass.
OMG thats being a mom, that soon will pass way too fast. I promise you he will not be doing these things to you when he is 18. Enjoy motherhood, get him and yourself some friends.
My four year old son is the same way. I'm home allllll day long and he still wants to sit on my lap. It's sweet but gets old. Often we spend ALL DAY LONG doing things together. I spend hours after he crashes to put the house back together...ugh!
My 3 year old still does this - there is never a time, where I can just sit down, without her climbing all over me, on my head, jumping up and down on me - they just love us, you can't get them to stop, they don't understand.
You just have to distract them for a little while, a snack is good for that.
Clar,
My son would sleep with his neck across mine and his butt under my arm. I'd get my nap in at that time.
<sigh> it is only such a short time - I enjoyed it while I could, but it is no more. yes it was tough when i needed to get up and do something or even use the restroom - but it was only a short time. My second will probably not sleep like that or be as clingy.
Acknowlege him, kiss him, hug him, find a toy, and transfer him to playing with the toy. Play with him a few moments, and you'll have more time than you need shortly.
Take pictures.
good luck,
M.
It looks like your son is trying to show/tell you that his needs are different than his sister and you aren't giving him what he needs. Some children simply need more time, affection and are higher maintenance than others.
