My three-year three-month old girl seems very picky about what he wears. He doesn’t want to wear old clothes. Each time I ask him to wear old clothes, he seems angry and unhappy, what should I do?
If he has a valid reason (too small, itchy, uncomfortable, baggy, etc.) then consider the request and get rid of them. Otherwise, give her a couple of choices. I believe the parent is in charge, but I also believe kids are people with feeling and opinions, and if they are valid and reasonable, they should be taken into account. We're teaching them how to be adults and how to think for themselves.
My oldest never cared about anything like that. He is simply very laid back about everything. My youngest on the other hand . . . he has an opinion about everything, and always wants to pick his own clothes out (he's 6 now). Now he just picks his clothes out himself, but when he was younger we would show him two outfits and let him choose between the two. That way he still had some control, but he didn't have free reign. Maybe it would work with your daughter because even though the clothes are "old," you're allowing her the power to choose. Good luck! It's tough when they have a mind of their own. :-)
Are they too small on him? Kids that age are usually about comfort or just what they like (my son loves this CARS hoodie he has). At this age, kids shouldn't be pressuring other kids into wearing "cool" clothes or anything like that, so I'm guessing the clothes are too small or he just doesn't like them. What should you do...he has what he has & that's what he has! Let him choose between outfit A and B, or even A, B or C and that's it. He'll feel he has a choice...but you get to decide what the choices are.
I would pick out 2 outfits and let him chose which one he wants to wear....It may be he just wants a choice...
I'm confused. You said your three-year three-month old "girl" and then use "he" and "him" the rest of the post. Is it a boy or a girl? I only ask because my daughter was picky about style the day she was born it seems! While my boys, not so much! So if it is a boy, maybe it is a comfort issue. At that age he/she should be able to tell you why he/she doesn't want to wear the clothes.
I am thinking you mean your son, right? Not a daughter....anyway, my son is exactly this age, and he is picky about what he wears too. I am thinking it is normal, he is a going to be an independent thinker and wants to have some sort of control over some elements of his life. I try not to stifle his desire to be independent, and more importantly, I try not to act like it bothers me that he is picky. I don't want to encourage him to his picky behavior as a way to manipulate me. So, my strategy is I regularly still pick out his clothes. About 1/2 the time, he will protest and refuse to wear what I choose, so I just say, alright, let me give you a choice....and I pick out of the closet 2 more things that he can wear instead. If that does't work, I go to the closet with him and allow him to pick what he wants to wear. So far, aside from that fact that he does not match, what he picks is fine by me! Occasionally, he will go through a big NO moment and refuse everything...what I find works, which is sneaky but I think also funny, is I show him a T shirt, then another, then maybe another, and then I show him the again the same T-shirt I showed him the first time -- but act like it is a totally new shirt. It is surprising how many times he will agree to it even after he's "refused" to wear the shirt the first time, LOL! Whatever works!
why are you asking a 3 year old? You are the parent. Tell your child that this is what she is going to wear that day...or give a choice of 2 things. If you let a 3 year old start being in charge what are you going to do when she is older, or the issue is more important than clothing?
I had the same problem with my son when he was almost 2 1/2. I was so worried I would have to return new clothes because they didn't fit his "criteria". Guess what, a few months later, no issues with clothes AT ALL. I don't know if this made a difference, but I would put a shirt on him that he wouldn't wear and if it was blue for example, I said "You look like Thomas!". He loves Thomas the Tank Engine and I did that for a couple days and then he didn't even think about it. Bottom line, it will pass and maybe in the meantime you can associate the clothes with something he (she?) likes.
Are there some fabrics that are itchier than others?
Tags or labels that might be rubbing uncomfortably?
Have you tried putting out, for example,
two pairs of pants and two shirts
and letting her select which one she wants to wear?
How old is old?
Hand-me-downs?
Can you perk them up one way or another?
