My Son Wont Sleep in His Own Bed.

My son, Joshua is 5 and does the same thing. He is getting alot better, he does actually sleep in his own bed quite-a-bit, but still comes in my room once in a while. I just kept telling him he was a big boy now, and he sleeps in his own bed. Your son will eventually grow out of it i think, like Joshua is. I don't know about the sippy cup. I can't remember what i did for Joshua, because he liked his cup too!! Maybe convert to the cups with the straws, and get away from the sippy ones. Good luck!!!

You could get one of those plastic knobs to go over his door knob..one for each side of the door they use them at daycares now :) very effective. if you put one of this plastic pieces on his door knob then he shouldnt be able to get out of the room,more than likely after doing this he will see he has to stay in his room and he will go back to bed, just listen out for him and if he continues to scream for a long period of time go into his room lay him back down on his bed and rub his back, singing helps too.. just allow him a sippy when he lays down to go to sleep, and thats it, when he wakes up and wants his sippy tell him its time to go to sleep now you can have your sippy in the morning when you wake up. hope this didnt sound to harsh, it wasnt intended that way! hope it helps, message back if you have another question or just want to vent :) let me know if you try it and how it goes, i havent tried it with my son yet,our door is missing a piece so hunter can go in and out as he pleases.. unfortunetely. if it works for you then i will someday have to try it with my son..
tiffany

Hi M.

I went through the same thing. At the time it was really frustrating however, I put a sleeping bag on the floor with a blanket and when he would wake up we would sleep on the floor in his room. One night he told me no no mama bed so I put him in his own bed and he now sleeps through the night in his own bed. He has also been asking for something to drink so I put a sippy with water in it next to his pillow and if he wakes up and needs a drink he knows that he can reach up and get it. As much as I didn't want to put him in bed with anything I realized that I was waking up thirsty so I figured that it wasn't hurting anything by leaving a cup in his bed. I hope this helps.

My son was the same(& would not go to bed before 10pm, sometimes later), but for xmas last year I bought him a tv/dvd for his room & he uses that as his nightlight. Not the most ideal solution, but it worked. Also this all took place immediately after a visit to Grandmas for 2 weeks & she does not believe in the share the bed thing, so he had been used to sleeping by himself. Now actually when he is about to defy me, I use this as the thing to take away as punishment (bed with NO TV)

As for the sippy cup issue, why are you trying to break it? I purposely put my child to bed with a sippy cup, so that he doesn't scream for a drink later(I remember when I was a kid getting up and asking for a drink - I didn't really want one, just wanted to be with the adults!). As long as it has nothing but water in it, I don't understand the problem (I sleep with a bottle of water next to my bed too)

Good Luck

S.

Sadly I'm having the same problem minus the sippy cup and screming. He goes to bed in his room and before I get to go to bed he's coming up the hallway or calling for me to ask when I'm going to bed.Every night me and my husband fight with him mid-sleep b/c of him being so tall ( a little over 3 feet) his knees and feet get jammed in our backs.Sometimes I just go get him but I've set a date with him (when he starts school in AUG.) that he was no longer allowed in mommy and daddies bed and that he wouldnt only sleep in his. Between this and trying to get him to stop whining on any little thing is a handful. I've decided to pop him anytime he whines and it seems to be working. I've also learned that when it comes to 3 yr old they understand the art of manipulation and deception so I think you should stick to yours guns so to speak. Once u lay him down...read him a little story and inform him that there wont be any sleeping in mommy and daddy's bed anymore. And when he gets up....regardless of the fight he puts up, stick to what u said and calmly lay him down, kiss him and leave the room. Granted he will cry and he will probably get up. But remember that ur the mom and u can outlast him. I promise that if u stick to it...he will follow ur lead and in no time will be permantely sleeping in his bed.

I just got my five year old to sleep in his own bed two weeks ago. I spent about four nights being up and down roughly 14 times. Consistancy is the word!!! You just have to keep taking him back to his room, and telling him to stay there. Now we are good, he still wakes up but he doesn't leave his bed as often as he used to.

M.,

I had this same issue. My son just turned 5 and sleeps through the night most of the time. On occasion he can sleep with me, usually as an award for some other good behavior. It started with me falling asleep in his bed after reading a story, so it was my own fault that the nights I would try to leave his room he didn't want me to. So when he was 3 1/2 I started talking about the "sleep fairy" and any night that he stayed in his room, he would receive a gift under his pillow. I also explained to him that she stopped coming when he turned 4.

It worked wonders. Please do not give him a TV, studies have shown that watching TV, playing video games etc. stimulate the brain and make it harder to get a good nights sleep.

As far as the sippy cup, I would leave one just with a very small amount of water.

Obviously, you will do what works for you. Be creative and stick to your guns.

Also, The Supernanny has a book and she has great insight and ideas.

Good luck.

M., I know what you are going through when it comes to children sleeping in their own bed. I am a single mom of a 6 yr old son and 11 1/2 yr old daughter and both slept in my room for a while. My son is now sleeping in his room most of the night. He occasionally sneaks in now when its actually time for me to wake up for the day.
My suggestion is, and this will be a little nonconvenient for yourself, however when he comes into your room you HAVE to put him BACK into his own room (kicking and scream and all), talk to him briefly why he needs to sleep in his own room. This will not come easy at first, but what does..lol. I know we are all tired and would rather not get up, however if you want to break his habit he needs to be put back into his bed each time he does it. If its possible, make a suggestion of letting him sleep with you 1 night a week (even if it is a weekend if that is more convenient), make it "fun", something to look forward to. As for the sippy cup, if you allow it, offer him a little drink of water before placing him back into his own bed. Maybe this will help a little going back to his own room. I feel he is going through some kind of security thing even through the night. It was always more comforting when my kids slept in my room with me (again being divorced for going on 10 yrs), however it didn't make it right. Now they enjoy when I "allow" them to sleep in my room maybe once or so a month. I hope this has helped. Have a Blessed Day.
Your Angel Friend
K.

It's best to let him fight it out on his own in his own bed ( in my own experience & opinion) If you have to figure out a way to lock the door so he can't get out , then do it. It will be more rewarding in the end and you will get a full nights sleep yourself ( I know it sounds mean, but it does work) As far as the sippy cup goes--you are the parent, he is the child. Don't give it to him. It's really that simple. Don't give in so much & they will listen and become better adjusted to life later on......of course this is just my opinion!!

What worked for me is that when she comes in, we go back to her bed and I lay there for about 10-15 minutes (unless I fall back to sleep)then return to my own. If it is a "bad dream" which is the excuse she has been coming up with, I pull out a dream catcher or sing a song. There are different stories she comes up with why she wants to sleep with me. I even have a small string of lights around her window that plays music, when the situation calls for it. Over all I haven't lost more than about 30 minutes of sleep and the times she gets up is getting fewer in between. Sometimes, she turns on her own string of lights and goes back to sleep. They out grown these things. I did the same with all my children.