My daughter has been potty trained for quite some time, but like any other normal kid, she gets excited or distracted and has accidents. My problem is she freaks out so badly and screams and cries and becomes so embarrassed she hides. I have never yelled or been angry towards her for an accident so I don't know what could cause this behavior. I also don't know what to do about it. I usually just quietly clean up the mess, give and friends or family the 'dont make a big deal' look and teel her that its ok and accidents happen. Anyone have a similar experiance? She's only three and shouldn't yet be so embarrased......
When I was young I was simply a perfectionist so this type of thing would elicit the same response from me. My niece who is 4 now also reacts much the same way to accidents of any kind. My advice would be to let her help you clean up the mess. I know this sounds strange but it puts her in control of the situation and lets her see that it really is ok with you that it happened. Also, keep reassuring her that you aren't upset in anyway.
i HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD GRAND DAUGHTER AND TWO GROWN SON'S...BUT MAYBE IF YOU TIRED TO LET HER WEAR THE PLASTIC PANTS THAT YOU CAN BUY WHEN YOUR BABY'S ARE WEARING CLOTH DIAPER'S...IT WILL ATLEAST HOLD IN THE PROBLEM SO SHE DOESN'T GET WET AND SHE'LL NOT BE EMBARRASED AROUND COMPANY.
ALSO EVEN THOUGH SHE IS POTTY TRAINED, SHE WILL GET TO PLAY AND FORGET. TRY ASKING HER EVERYHOUR IF SHE NEEDS TO GO, JUST TO REMIND HER THAT SHE NEEDS TO BE ON THE POTTY.
SHE'LL GET OVER IT, IT JUST TAKES SOME TIME!
HAPPY HOLIDAYS
L. P
Hi C.,
From what it sounds like someone must have made a big deal about her accidents, that she reacts the way she does. When she does have an accidents. Clean up the mess and talk to her while you are. Reenforce to her that it is ok and you are not angry. There are some good books about potty accidents in the library under child developments that are written for her. Read the stories to her at bedtime, this will help her with her embarrassments. My son and I use to read stories that were related to whatever stage he was in. It helped him to know that he was not alone in this. Good luck and Happy Holidays.
WELL U CAN TRY TO PUT PULLUPS ON HER SO THAT SHE DONT HAVE ANY ACCIDENTS AND THAT PROBABLY STOP THE EMBARRASING BUT AND FIND OUT WHAT MAKE HER EXCITED THEN TELL HER DONT GET TO EXCITED JUST STAY CALM BUT U CAN TRY TO MONITER HER BATHROOM TIMES LIKE GIVE HER SOME JUICE AND WATCH TO SEE WHAT IS GOING WRONG BUT HOPEFULLY THAT WILL HELP
I have a 5 year old who reacts the same way. she still has occasional accidents after playing and not going when needed.she told me that she hides because shes afraid she will get into trouble although she never has and she dont want others to make fun of her.My 10 year old will bust in tears still today if she spills something or breaks something cause shes scared of being into trouble.Their doctor tells me its just that they are more sensitive to things than others.Good luck with your 3 year old and trust me its not uncommon,like a stage they go through and at all ages no matter what it is.
I'm sorry you are having this problem, and I hope it gets better soon, I know it must be frustrating. I would have to ask if someone else would've had the opportunity to fuss at her when she had an accident and you're not around. If she goes to daycare then possibly it happened there or the other children made fun of her. I would try asking her why she gets so upset and if she doesn't give an answer then I would try asking whoever she might be alone with and see what they say. It may just be a stage she is going through, and if you can't do anything else, reinforcing that she's not in trouble and you're not mad will help more than you know even if it's not immediate. Good luck!!
