When I tell my daughter what to do she ignore me, but when my mother, grandmother, or aunt tell her what to do she jump and do it. What am I suppose to do.
My kids were the same way when they were young. Make sure you tell them in a firm voice what needs to be done. Make a punishment for if they don't do it and stick to it. It will get better.
She knows that you love her, and she is only doing this to get to you. It worked. I know that your family is prob really helpful, but let them know that you are trying to work with her on following directions, and not to ask her to do something if she doesnt do it the first time when asked by you. Tell your daughter that it hurts your feelings when she doesnt listen to you. She is only four, but turn it around....Ask her how she would feel if she needed you to get her a drink and you didnt listen to her...ask her if that would hurt her feelings because you are ignoring her...i bet she says yes....Ask her if she would like to help you with housework, and to become a little big girl. Teach her how to seperate laundry, and to fold towels, and little things that help you. Reward her for a great listener day.
Ive been there. I lived with my mom and sister for almost 2 years because I have 4 kids, and couldnt support them by myself.
The advice the other ladys have given is great, but it actually took me standing up to my mom and sister to get my kids to listen. Id say one thing no action, theyd say it boom, it got done....I had to take control and tell my mom especially that I was their parent, and although I knew her intentions were noble, I needed to be the parent.
Be strong, set your boundarys, if you threaten a punishment, follow through. Good luck.
My boyfriend has the same problem with his daughter. Well he did. She would listen to me, but not to him. I have rules and boundaries, that he is now implementing.
There was no structure, he would tell her not to do something, and would follow up on it. She was so used to getting away with things she just didn't listen to him.
Now that there are rules, no jumping on the furniture etc. she knows that when she's told to stop, he means it. It's a three strikes and you're out thing. Try the book 1,2,3, magic. She's told the second time, that if she does it again, she will be punished. She goes in the corner for three minutes. Then she's asked why she was put in there, and why she shouldn't do whatever she did. In the case of the furniture it's because she's going to get hurt.
Try the book, and see if it helps. When she knows that you are serious and she will be put in the corner she may listen.
hi i have the same problem with my fiancee I can tell my son to stop or something and he won't listen to me but as soon as daady says something he'll hop to it i think it might have something to do with the fact that they aren't always around and when they are they are usually nice until its time to have your daughter do something then she may feel the need to please them because she doesn't see them as often as she sees you. How to change it i am not sure if you do find a way let me know
