My Husband Wants Me to Get Rid of My Cat

I agree with Patricia, sounds like there may be more going on than the cat.

However, the cat is your cat and he knew it when you got married. I know that cats can be difficult when they are sick, but you said he is over that. Move the plants. Scoop the box everyday. Tell your hubby too bad! Old cats, especially ones that aren't "people cats" don't do well if they are re-homed.

All this said, if you think he will hurt the cat, that is another situation and the cat needs to be moved for his safety. Harming animals is a major red flag!

Good luck!

You didn't clean well enough for him?
Tell him to clean it next time then.

I agree, I believe the cat is the least of your issues or worries along with the comment.

And no, I would not give up my cat. Unless someone was very allergic to it, No.

God Bless

Animals aren't "things" to get rid of when they become a little difficult. Sounds like you recognize that the cat was first and you get lots of joy out of it. I agree with others, I think the cat is the least of your problems with this man, but I'd tell him to forget the idea of getting rid of it. If he made a comment about violence to an animal, I'd be seriously concerned. Would you want your daughter to hear him say something like that when she's older? What he said was Sick! Maybe he needs to look into his mental health? Take care of yourself, your daughter and your cat and seriously consider if this relationship is healthy for the three of you.

You do seem to have several things all rolling up together that maybe are being focused onto the issue of the cat since he is no longer a easy thing to ignore. I don't think any advise can really be given, but I think people here can give you pearls from their own experiences. I had a cat that went strong 17 years and I didn't mind having to pay more (time/$$) close attention for that "darn" cat at all when her time came. She was a come and go indoor / outdoor roof jumping, bird hunting, mousing, purring fuzzball of great personality. It sounds like he holds the bar pretty high for quality of life issues. I hope he has more compassion for people than animals. Thanks for reminding of my ole cat, these days we have a yard/houseful of small dogs and the kids just love 'em.
Good Luck
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YOur husband is a gift from god not all of us have them, you should do what ever it takes to keep him happy so that you can be happy

Re. the litter box - there are "automatic" litter boxes that scoop the clumpy litter - I think they're a little less messy. I know sick cats are hard to deal with sometimes, but that's life. He knew you had the cat when you met and when you married, so he's just going to have to put up with it. The plants shouldn't be within reach of pets or children either, so move them up.

I don't know if I'm over-reacting, but there may be deeper issues here than the cat depending on how he's reacting with other things like the pantry. Is he just annoyed with the cat or is there more of a control thing going on? That "stomp in it's head" comment is alarming to me. Don't ignore warning signs of a deeper problem just because they're connected to something that seems "minor".

Good luck with this.