Hi A.,
I understand completely what you are going through. My husband is on his third tour in Iraq right now, and we have 5 children (ages 13, 12, 7, 2, and 9 months.) The 7 year old and 2 year old are the ones that are taking this one the hardest. We are lucky enough though, cuz my hubby and I both have webcams and he has internet access in his room, so we are able to communicate every day and he is able to see the kids and they can see him (which is a God send.) At any rate, I just wanted to offer you words of encouragement...YOU CAN DO THIS, YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH!!! Our 2 year old is very close with my husband, and he was very upset for the first couple of weeks, crying and constantly asking where his daddy went. He still asks sometimes, but my hubby has been gone for going on 4 months. I am not going to lie and tell you that it is easy, I think it is harder when the little ones are so young. However, if you show him pictures every day, have your dh make some recordings and videos before he leaves, etc. he will atleast have some things to make him feel closer to his daddy. Also, pillow cases with daddy's pic on it or a daddy doll (it is a soft doll with your hubby's pic on it) might also help him to cope better. Good luck sweety, and if you need anything, you can send me a PM!!!