My Husband Is Being a Jerk to My Mom....

What a difficult situation! Obviously the proper thing to do would have been that your husband apologize for snapping and everybody moves on. You need to speak to your husband - maybe even go out to dinner while your mother watches your daughter - and tell him that this is not the way to treat a guest, let alone his mother-in-law. He's making an awkward situation much, much worse. If he can't get over himself how about putting your mother in a nice hotel, your treat. This gives you a little distance. Is your husband a stay at home dad? Maybe he's tired on someone invading his "turf"? I'm sorry your husband is having trouble seeing the "big picture" - short stay, family, etc.

My two cents:

This is your husband's home too -- not your mother's -- and 3 weeks is a long time to have a houseguest -- particularly a difficult mother-in-law. To be honest, I sympathize with your husband and since he is the one you are married to, maybe trying to understand his perspective would help heal the rift.

If you'd like your mom to stay longer, maybe she can stay in a nearby hotel or with another relative or friend?

Good luck.

You need to do something about this soon, because it is really important for your daughter that you and your husband do not split up.

Your husband is being rude and immature as a response to this situation. Ignoring people for days is childish.

HOWEVER: You cannot take sides with your mother in fights against your husband. That is VERY destructive to your marriage. Three weeks is WAY to long for your mother to stay at your house. Especially if she is the kind of person who "pipes in." If your husband got that mad at her, she is probably somewhat of an irritating person. Remember -- it is your husband's home too, so he shouldn't be subjected to someone for three weeks.

I hope you've worked it out by now, but I suggest you apologize to your husband for yelling at him. Ask him how long he would be comfortable with your mother staying in the future. Make him feel like he matters as much or more than your mother, and then maybe at the end of the conversation, or better yet at some other time, ask him politely to not ignore her when he's mad.

Your husband's own mother obviously never trained him properly about some things, like politeness and etiquette, and that's not his fault. Unfortunately, you will have to take on the task of training him to be polite yourself, but know in advance that it will take YEARS, and you have to do it very delicately. When you criticize men, they will withdraw and become WORSE.

It might be helpful to ask him, as neutrally as you can, what's got him so upset. You won't be able to control everything that's going on, but you might be able to understand it better.