N.B.
I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I are both "transplants" and have no family at all here. Our first and only experience with a sitter was a bad one and we are kind of at a loss. We are willing and able to pay top dollar for a sitter, but we kind of have trust issues, given our last experience. A friend suggested that we look into starting some sort of "kid trade" with another family once or twice a month. I only have one child (age 6 - boy), but he welcomes playmates of all genders and ages and his absolute best friends are three sisters who live nearby. If interested, I would love to meet your family and see if we could help each other out.