My Home Is Not My Home(sleepless)

Here are your options, you can start putting her in her own bed at night and let her cry it out every night until she doesn't cry anymore when you put her to bed, OR (this is what I would do, given her age) I would go into her room with her when its bedtime and lay next to her crib on the floor or sit on the floor and once you have said goodnight and kiss or read a story or whatever your routine is, thats it. No talking or interraction from you. Sit there in the dark (she will know u are there) until she is asleep, and then once she is, quietly leave. Once she is doing well with this (might take a week or two) move out to the hallway and sit out there where she can see you when she goes to sleep. After a week or so of that you should be clear. Good luck!!!

OMG, they grow up soooooooooooo fast! My oldest daughter slept in my room from birth until age 4. I enjoyed it. Even now, my kids are 10 and 8, and a few times a month, they'll pull out their sleeping bags and camp out in our room. My husband and I always found our time together one way or another. The crying so much is ODD. A 2 year old should not be that fussy--esp. if she is already in your bed. I agree with the suggestion of making her a special bed on the bedroom floor--still next to you but not RIGHT next to you. Keep talking to her about a big girl bed and her own room, but don't force it. Enjoy every moment-- it just flies by.

Do you have two arms? if so, pick up your child, put her in her crib - and tell your wife that she can set up a cot in the baby's room, but you have to sleep. It is not safe for babies to co-sleep with parents. Many can (and do) die from this.

Does she do naps in her bed? If not that's a good place to start. If you are both gone during the day, then the weekends. With one of my kids, who hated his room, I started him out of the sofa. Him laying on one end with me sitting on the other and then when he was asleep I would move him into his room. Then once he got used to the sofa we took the routine to his bedroom. I would lay him in his bed and then sit in the room. They key was for him to get used to going to sleep without being held or laying beside us. He actually slept better when he got used to sleeping alone. I was okay if he ended up in our bed at some point in the night as long as there was SOME part of the night he wasn't in our bed. I also knew when he got a little older he would sleep through the night. And he did! =)

Good luck in your endeavors and know it gets better. This is but a very small part (although a frustrating part) of a pretty wonderful experience.

L.

Has she slept in your bed since she was a baby? Or did you try to move her to a "big girl" bed at one point and she just slept with you instead? My daughter never slept in her crib. I co-slept with her (not by choice), and when she was old enough to walk, she was in her own bed. She loved it. I honestly think she just hated her crib.
If she can walk I would try her own bed (maybe a mattress on the floor) and see how she does. You can put the mattress in your room then gradually move her out, or you can place her in her own room.
I will be completely honest with you, there were times when I was so worn out it was just easier to put her in bed with me. So maybe thats how your wife is feeling. I realized though, in the long run, it was actually easier putting her in her own bed, mainly because I would wake up every time the baby would move. When they fuss in their own beds they just toss and turn and go right back to sleep (well the kids I know do).
Just talk with your wife and try it, it can't be any worse then what your going through now. Good Luck!

At this age , there is still time to cry it out. If you wait she will be out of her crib before you know it and it is so much harder. We let our son cry it out at around 12 months. I thought he would cry for hours but it was only 10-15 minutes each time for a night or two. You can do it. Don't forget to have a night light in the room . Good luck to you:0

Our daughter is almost 3 and still sleeps in our bed on and off. The only problem is that it IS easier for me to put her back to sleep when she is in our bed. AND my husband likes having her in the bed with us. It's just always been that way, and it feels empty if not EVERY space is taken up (lol).. I would just start a bedtime routine that starts with bath, pajamas, book, BED! in her own room. I make my daughter lay in her room, or bed (she sometimes will sleep on a pallet on our floor) for at least an hour. If she STILL isn't asleep by then.. I let her go to sleep with us, and when she's asleep I put her in her room. That's all there is to it.

I don't think it's good to let your daughter "cry it out." It makes her feel like you're abandoning her. Good luck!

The first thing you have to do is get your wife on board. You will just have to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you want your wife back! Tell her that the longer you wait the harder it will be. Once you convince her you will need to understand that this will take a few nights. Your child will cry and cry. You put her in the crib and you lay her down and tell her to go to sleep. You walk out. She will cry, you go back in after 4-5 mins and lay her down, pat her bottom and tell her to go 'night-night'. Leave the room again and go back in after about 7 mins....lay her down, pat her, etc then leave. Return after 10 mins, etc etc until it has been long enough and she will eventually fall asleep. The next night you do the same thing...after about 4-5 nights, she will be ok. She will sleep in her bed. :o)
Our children did not sleep in our beds ever but they did get up several times a night and at 11 mos we had to do this and after 4 nights they slept all night. Good luck

Unfortunately, it will be about a week of your daughter not liking the situation once you move her to her bed. The trick is to stand your ground and don't give in when she cries to come back in your bed. I would start it on a Friday night or whenever you and your wife don't have to work the next day. Y'all will have to be brave and wait out the crying. She is still little an will get over it quicker than when she is 2 and you really want her out of your bed. Remember, you are the parents. She will not be crying because she is lonely or feeling abandoned, she will be crying because it is not what she is used to and not her getting her way. Your wife has to be on board though, or else she will just go get her to stop the crying. Good luck and hang in there! Your bed should be your bed and if you don't want her there anymore, then it is time to just bite the bullet and get through the transition period.

I have no doubt you have talked about this a lot with your wife. Sometimes it's just convenient to tuck them in with you, but in the long run, it's not good for anyone, including your daughter. If you and your wife are like me, when I don't get enough good sleep, I'm lousy and grumpy the next day and can come no where near being at my best. This includes not just my job and school, but also in relationships which directly affects marriages and kids. It will only get harder - on your daughter - as she gets older to move her to a bed and room!! of her own. It may be stressful making the transition, but you'll all be better off for it. - I would also encourage looking at what is really behind the desire/need to keep her sleeping in your bed. As a mom of 2 kids in their early 20's, I know it can be VERY difficult to let go, and not just when they turn 21 - letting go all along the way so they can learn and grow. We let go of them so they can learn to walk and let go of them when we drop them off at school. It's part of their journey. I really wish you the best with this and hope you'll really work together on a solution for the best for all of you, not the least for your daughter. - It's nice hearing from a caring dad.

what has been keeping her from going to her bed? what makes her get up a couple times a night? have you talked to your pediatrician? was your wife nursing? i can understand a mom having a baby in bed if she's nursing. my daughter was much easier with going to sleep in her bed. my four month old son is big on cuddling so its totally different. i would ask your pediatrician or go the supernanny route! good luck!

Have you tried sleeping in her room and bed until she falls asleep then leave, so she can get used to the idea instead of using your room.