My Five Year Olds Hair Has Gone from Tangled to a Matted Mess up to Her Scalp

Part the hair in sections and start on each section after you finish one section just twist or braid that till you are done with the whole head then take the twist down and brush together. It will be a lot better. My hair use to tangle a lot when younger. I still to this day part in section and comb my hair. Hope this helps.

See if the beautician can get it out. If not, she can cut it.

Try to wash her hair then condition it and put leave in conditioner in it while her hair is still wet...leave it in for about 1/2 an hour then start from the bottom up. If that doesn't work you could wash her hair put a whole bunch of good conditioner on it (while wet) wrap a towel around it and let her sleep with the towel on. In the morning wet it down and comb it with the conditioner still in it then rinse it out.

Good luck

M.

Round hair brushes are a normal persons night mare I threw mine away getting it stuck in my own hair many years ago.So I know how terrible you litle girls hair must look, I had to actually cut it out of my hair.Ouch.Take her an get a cute litle pixie hair cut and throw that darn round brush away.Her hair will grow back soon enough.

I would love to hear a response here too. I have the same struggles with my child.
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As the mother of five, you have plenty to do...I have been there and since she will not cooperate, I would just go ahead and get her hair cut.
If she doesn't like it I would just tell her that that is what happens when your hair gets tangled up in such a mess and you don't want to sit still for the comb out....and that you would do the same thing if it happened again.
It is my philosophy that if girls want long hair they better be willing to sit still to have it combed when they are too young to do it themselves.
I had 4 girls and as a school teacher I made sure their hair was always neat and especially out of their faces because I know what a distraction it can be for a child in school when it is unkempt etc.
I had a student in first grade years ago and I don't think she ever came to school with her hair combed...I felt sorry for her and I've always wondered what happened to her.
Anyway that is my suggestion.

Greasing my hair down never worked. It was always a very fine-toothed comb and an hour.

I have soft, baby fine hair that was easily and frequently tangled when I was that age. (For the same reason, if I remember correctly! And those were the days before damage-free rubberbands.) We used all of those items you mentioned, but what worked was a lot of patience. My mother would just very sternly tell me that I had no choice but to sit still and made it a lesson. I would sit between her legs on the floor while she worked. I hated it and I fidgeted, but I learned from those experiences that my hair was more fragile than most. My mother had the woman who cut my hair teach me how to brush it properly so that I could best avoid knots and breaking my hair when running brushes through it. I think that because getting knots out was misery, the lesson stuck.

Here's what I do: When trying to get the knots out, take the mass of hair and the comb and first pull down very gently with the comb as far as you are able to with the hair still slackened. Be careful not to yank and tighten the knot. Then hold the mass of hair at the ends between two fingers of one hand and above your fingers gently comb upward on the hair (almost like you would if you were teasing it, but don't too push hard. I hope that makes sense.) You'll have a small amount of hair still between your fingers at that point as some of it will have pulled free. See if that loosens any of the knots. If it does, gently pull the freed hairs away from the mat, using the tip of the comb to grab them and repeating the process until you are left with a few very small impossible knots that you can't get out. These you can cut without obvious damage or perhaps you'll get lucky and can do it until they are gone altogether.

Every once in a while I still get a bad knot and handle it like this. I've already had to put it into practice with my 3 year-old who unfortunately has my hair and likes to play salon, too. It's going to take some time if it's that bad, but it's worth it to save as much of her hair as possible. I wish there was an easier way. I'll be really interested to read what everyone else posts in the hopes that I can find a better method, too! Good luck!

Hi A.
I found that conditioning my daugher's hair BEFORE washing it helped a lot. I would put the conditioner on her hair, and have her wear a shower cap for an hour or so before washing it. Once I washed it I would divide it into section, comb it and braid it until it dried, or blow dry it.
Hope this helps
D.

Sexy hair has a conditioner/detangler called SoyTri-Wheat Leave In Conditioner. It can be used on wet or dry hair. As a hairdresser I have found it to be the best item there is and have transferred many clients to it.
I had a daughter whose hair naturally matted to her scalp, was very tender headed, etc., so I know what you are going through!
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