Hi,
I know it feels a little better to be able to talk about it. My husband is kinda selfish and doesn't really get what it is that I have to deal with on a daily basis.
So, my advise to you is for you to show him what you do. You say you love him and he's a good man. So,I think he's just a little uneducated as to the stress of being a mom.
Here's what you do.
First just talking to him or explaining it does NOT work with men. All they hear is blah, blah, blah I'm not happy. Which freaks them out and they just tune you out even further.
Men are very concrete thinkers. You really have to show them. Your man runs his own business so I assume he can take off for one day. Believe me, it should only take him one full day.
But, this plan can be lengthened to one week if he's a little hard to convince.
You must have him stay home with the baby by himself for a least 8 hours or more. Sign up for a class or conference for your work that you absolutely can't miss. Pay for it in advance so he won't want you to loose the money. It really has to be something legitimet not you doing something fun for you.
Next, layout everything for him. Bottles, diapers, bib, extra clothes in case of a blow out. Then, put one load of dirty baby clothes in a bushel in front of the washing machine and ask him as you walking out the door if he can just throw those clothes in the washer and dryer. FYI: Don't really expect them to get washed.
Next, be very grateful. Oh, thank you honey, Are you sure you'll be OK? I'll be home at 4,5,6 what ever time. I say this because 1.you get more flies with honey and 2.he really thinks how hard can this be she does it all the time and I'm a man I can do anything she can do.
When you get home again be very gracious, but look him staight in the eye and say how was it? And don't let him look away because he will lie and say it was easy.If he has to look you in the eye it will be hard for him to deny that he was stressed.
Now, you will get from 3-6 months of sympathy from him until his mouth will get him into trouble again. Then you know what to do. It will be time for daddy's day or a just the boys day again.
Now, I know you all think this is a little manipulative. Believe me, it is not. Dad's really do need to care for their children once in a while and it helps them to understand their kids, love their kids, and respect their kids' mom for all she does for them.
He, like my husband may still moan and complain but I now just suggest that I might have a day were he might have to watch the kids and boy, his socks just magically got into the hamper from the floor.
Again, you can't just tell or talk to men you really need to show them in a non-confrontational way. Hope this helps.