I recently learned from my two boys last week that his father and family are moving from their place because supposedly the landlord would like to move back to their place. He has to move within 15 days..so basically before the end of this month.
Anyhow, I'm sure he expects the children to just "tell me" and it's a done deal. I have no idea where he'll be moving to, address, etc. Is he supposed to notify me? How do I go about this situation. I was thinking of sending him an email, He's a difficult person to deal with. He loves to bring up "other" things that have nothing to do what we are trying to communicate about or he just won't answer me. I will be serving him court documents at the end of this month ..beginning of February as well.
Any suggestions, comments would really help me out.
Thanks to ALL in advance.
I would just like to thank the Moms that have replied to my post. I took most of your advice and sent him an email. Has not responded.
I just learned that he found out that he had to move 2 months ago and now they have 15 days or till the end of this month to move. He's unemployed, he has his wife working 2 jobs. I've been trying to be civil with him as much as I could for the past 7 years and thinking after all these years...it would be different and just maybe..MAYBE we can get a long..civil at least. He'll obviously will not change and the reason for serving docs is because my 13 year old son has been asking me to take him full time..and I actually posted a question about taking my son full time. But that's a whole different story.
I am definitely concerned about where my kids will be. So, again I just thought..maybe he'd just give me a heads up ..to say..Hey..I'm moving, not too sure where we'll be, but as soon as I find out, I'll shoot you an email. But..I guess that's wishful thinking, right?
At this point, no more Ms. Nice person anymore and I'll wait for his response. Thanks again to all that have replied!
He SHOULD tell you, but you can't make him do it. Now that you know this is happening, just ask him.
He is only 'legally' required to notify you if he is moving out of the county/city...he should notify you, I would give him awhile and see if he does....he does not really HAVE to do it until it is your turn to go to where he is to pick up your kids.
He does not belong to you anymore...he does some have time before he has to 'report' to you.
whenever my ex has moved i've learned it from my daughter 1st as well. i normally wait until a few days before he is moving then i will just ask him. then he tells me the situation and i ask for the address. simple as that.
Read your divorce agreement.
Out of respect, if nothing else, both parents should let the other know where they will reside. However, it sounds like your ex was given pretty short notice and they might not know right now where they are going. It can be very difficult to fnd a place.
I rented a house that we really, really loved and I didn't even live there a month when they came and put a for sale sign in the front yard. Then, one of their adult kids got someone pregnant and they wanted us out of the house so their son could live there. We had 30 days to find somewhere else, pack and move. It was torture.
It sounds like you're less concerned about not knowing where your kids will be than you are being able to serve him court papers.
If he doesn't know his new address yet, that could be problematic.
I would write a letter to his current address and tell him the kids say he's moving and you'd like the new address as soon as possible. Please.
Keep a copy of it, including a copy of the addressed envelope, for your files.
This will prove your attempt to get that information if he drags his feet about giving it to you.
It's nuts that O. parent wouldn't notify the other if/when they move. Maybe he's not sure where he's moving to yet?
Just email him and ask him to email you his new contact info as soon as he can?
Um, have him served at his place of employment.
I would send him a snail mail - certified to get a receipt of delivery - and ask for his new address. Personally, I would not let my child go off with him if I didn't have an address.
Do what the other Moms said and check your court docs and call your attorney for advice.
Good Luck.
I am not sure abou the law in CA, but my logic tells me that if your kids are going to be spending time there, then you should know where they are physically at all times. Check your divorce papers or call your lawyer (this is something that their assistant/legal aid may also know off the top of their head, so no need to wait for your lawyer to call you back.
I would ask him in writing regardless. Best of luck!
Not knowing CA law......most state require a parent to provide updated contact information (address/phone) no matter where they go. Check your divorce decree.
My friends that have gone through this told me when I asked that each had not had it put into the divorce decree for either of them to have to do this and now it is too late unless back into court they go. Once parents seperate with any problems there seem few times they are kind enough to do the right thing. I am sure that your parental visitation doesn't have many in detail instructions but if you are going to have him served do it quickly since time is limited, you can ask whoever drew up your papers who to pay to do it. or many police officers will do it for a fee on thier off time. Take it a step at a time and know that at least he told the children since many fathers don't even do that much I am sorry tosay.
