My Daughter Misses Friend from Old Daycare.

Do you know their names so maybe you can look up the address in the phone book and send it. Maybe your neighbor knows their name or address. I think you should invite her but not go through the daycare to do so. Have a Great Day:)T.

Go ahead and invite her through your neighbor. What could it hurt? Maybe put a note in the invitation that your daughter really misses playing with theirs. My nine year old's best friend is a girl she met when she was three. You never know what may come of these early friendships!

I disagree about letting it go. My daughter went through a similar situation when we left our last daycare. She was really close friends with one little girl and always talked about her. We kept in touch with the parents and would set up play dates for the two kids which made them very happy. This little girl now goes to our new daycare and my daughter and her are best friends.

I would talk to your neighbor and have her either slip the invite to the girl in her cubby or ask the neighbor to try and get the other parents phone number or look up the phone number and give them a call. When you call you could say something like "I am not sure if we have formerly met but my duaghter used to go to xyz daycare and played a lot with your daughter...even though we are no longer at the daycare my daughter would love to have your daughter come to her b-day party." If they sound interested you could then get their address and mail the invite as well. Good luck...switching daycare centers is hard but sometimes has to be done in the best interest of the child.

I would definitely invite her. And I would do it through the neighbor, don't get the daycare involved. It's not quite the same, but my son made his best friend last fall in the younger preschool room. Within a couple months he moved up to older preschool, and she stayed behind. For over a month he was very upset and cried about her, and had behavior issues for a while related to it. After a month I ran into her mom there and found out she was having the same problems, and every morning cried that she wanted to go to older pre with Connor. She was even having behavior issues at home after a month. As time went on, it did slightly improve, but the bond they had never changed. It turned out to be a positive thing for them to be separated, because before that they wouldn't play with anyone else and they learned to have other friends too. Teachers from both rooms told me that if either class was outside, the would look at eachother through the window and just stand there and stare at eachother. That was mostly the first month, and then slowed down. Her Mom and I exchanged phone numbers/email and started getting them together outside of daycare, and we learned that we are almost identical, and almost every part of their lives have been identical so far, they even both lived with a grandparent until March 2007, both had baby cousins born in Sept, 5 days apart... it was just amazing the similarities. Now we understand where the bond came from, and even after over 6 months of being apart, they still were best friends and you never would have known they were separated. They usually only saw eachother on Thursday's at chapel, and the times we got together (every 3-4 weeks). She moved up to his class when school got out, and it is like they were never apart. The bond they have, I could see lasting a lifetime, and I wouldn't want to take that away from him. He even has plans to marry her, and has everything planned out.

There is a good chance the other child is missing your daughter just as much. Her parents would know that, and would probably be excited to receive contact and be able to get the kids together again. I invited another child to my sons birthday party (another close friend he made before Alexa moved up) and the Mom called me and was excited because we had never seen them at drop off/pickup and Trey asked daily for Connor to come to his house, so that invitation from me made communication possible, and everyone was happy.

The worst that could happen... would be that she couldn't come. I think she would, and I think both kids would be happy. It will be a chance for you to meet the other parents and possibly keep them in touch and build a lifelong friendship. If you don't make contact, they won't know how to.

I would let it go. Even if she came to the birthday your daughter would be so overwhelmed and stimiulated with what was going on she wouldn't have much time or attention to really notice that girl came to her party.

My daughter was in several daycares as a toddler/preschooler because of the same reason you listed above. She made her friends talked about them and eventually forgot about them.

If you still feel the need to invite the girl to your party I would have your neighbor slip the invite.