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I have a 4 year old as well. I found the technices on "supper nanny" work really good. I lay down the rules. When she's not following them I come down to her eye level and let her know she's getting a warning and I also point out the behavior that is not acceptable. If she continues to misbehave I sit her in the corner for 4 minutes (1 minute for every year that they are) after her time is up I let tell her "Reyna you were in time out for ......." I than make her say she's sorry and we give hugs and kissed. This works but you have to be consistent with it. There have been times she and I have been out shopping and she started to act up, I put her in the corner in the store. I acted like I wasn't looking at her but I was carefully watching her out of the corner of my eye. Her behavior has improved so much and now all I have to say is "warning" and she immediatly stops her negative behavior. Also give her lots of praise and love when she is does right. Spend time with her having fun. I take mine on mommy/daughter dates. If the father is involved have him do the same. Hope this helps