My Daughter Cries at Night Uncontrollaby When She Comes Back from Her Dads

Does she do that at her Dad's???
How is she there????

Next: at about this age, there is what is called "Night Terrors." Look it up online.... is this what is happening?
It is a developmental occurrence.

I would... also make sure... about knowing what her Dad/Step-Mom are doing.... if she cries at night over there??? How are THEY handling her????
What is her activities there?
Does she nap there??? A child this age NEEDS to nap... too.
What is her day/night like at her Dad & Step-Mom's???
Do they mention anything to you? Or just "act" like everything is nice and rosie and trouble free????

The book: "What To Expect The Toddler Years" is great. I suggest that and as a reference.... so that you know what is normal or not...

all the best,
Susan

My daughet started with night terrors at that age and holding her made it worse when it happes go in at night calmly tell her mommy is there and put your hand on her chest and let her work threw it..I dont thinks its from miss treatment.id talk with them ask what food shes eating and if shes napping and sleeping the proper amount each night ..Ask them if it pccurs when shes there as well..

I agree, with Bee's Mom! Her body and emotions are going through quite a disruption. Waking up, in a different place can be shocking and scary.
(even if she knows the place, it still feels different when they grew used to somewhere else, for a time) Also, she is not "behaving bad." She is simply going through some huge changes in her life and is trying to cope. Comfort her when she cries, she's looking for security. If you haven't noticed any other changes, I doubt she is being mistreated. It sounds like confusion, to me.

I suggest, that since she doesn't want to be held, that you just sit on the bed next to her and let her cry. Knowing that you're there will be comforting. Do not try to talk her out of her tears.

Crying is a way to release pent up emotion and/or physical tension. It doesn't necessarily mean she's in emotional or physical pain. She may just have extra energy to release.

But, it also sounds like it could be night terrors which happens to a lot of babies this age.

It's painful to see our children cry. Because she just started overnights with her dad at the same time, it's understandable to think the two are related. And they may be. I feel just a bit disoriented when I stay overnight somewhere else. Imagine how confusing this must be to an 18 month old baby.

Let her know you're there and let her cry. She will work it out. During the day it may help to talk about going to Dad's and returning to you. There is a book titled, Mom's House, Dad's House or something like that that may be good to read with her at her age. I don't remember for what age it's written. It may also help you to read a book or two written for parents in this situation.

No...at a year and a half, the crying is probably just from being in a different place. She gets used to one place, then changes....that, I think, would be normal for a 18 month old. Crying is just their way of getting reassurance that things are ok....nothing to worry about.

M:)

My kids see their bio mom rarely and have been weird/weepy after visits for years---it is only now that they are both in the 10 and older range that they are able to handle it better.
They used to come home and act like different kids, and very moody.
Unless you have some past experience with dad/stepmom being hurtful, I would chalk it up to the stress of the change---different people, different place, different rules, different expectations, having to be separated/say goodbye...it's actually really a lot for a kid to handle.