My Children Seem to Have Forgtten Thier Manners

If this man is good to your kids and to you then don't give up because chances are the kids will not be happy with anyone you date if you let them call the shots I am sure their dad walking out had a huge impact on them even though they were little when it happened kids hear things over the years and they pay attention more than we think they do their anger is probably with their dad but he isn't around to deal with it so they are going with the next best thing.I would look into family counseling and try to let get to the root of the problem but don't give up.

I would look into why they are feeling like this. It could be as you say jealousy - but it could be something more. Maybe family counseling would help? It has to be confusing to all of a sudden have new people living in their house. Ddi you give them an oppurtunity to voice their opinion about them moving in? How long were you together before that (not meaning to judge - just thinking that might be a reason WHY they might feel the way they do)?

Hi C.

What ever you do, don't give up on the relationship because this will happen with every guy you meet. You need too set some bounderies and rules if there that spoiled. Also it might seem to them that your paying to much attention to his little girl and him, more than them. Try an activity that all 4 of them would be interested in, because if you involve all of them they won't feel threatened. And your boyfriends little girl will want to spend time at your house, she won't be scared. Because i'm sure your children are making her uncomfortable or scaring her in some way.

This is typical. Children don't adjust to change very well. Give it time. You are entitled to a life. Unless he is abusive to your children give them time to adjust. Blending families is not easy. Trust me I have three step daughters. It was rough when they came to live with us. It took time but they eventual came around to liking me. Just give them time.

C., have patience and stay with it. I am a step mom that came into a relationship with 2 children. A 16 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. I have no children of my own. It takes time to build a relationship between kids and step parents. When it starts to click, it's the most wonderful thing in the world. I think of my husbands kids as MY OWN! And think of me as their mom. They both have contact with their bio moms, but they consider me mom. Tell your fiance to stick with it. The more things you do as a femily, the more they will bond with him. It's not an overnight thing.

Good luck!

K. C.

A little about me: I married a wonderful man that has total custody of his 2 children. I sell Real Estate in Rhode Island and I am a Foster Parent for the state of Rhode Island.