My Boys...I Have Three of Them...

If you know they are going to a good home;-) that is wonderful and you are such a wonderful person for making that decision.. It must harder than words can say. I was adopted and thank my bio mom so much for doing it--We are friends now after finding her 30 yrs later... Work on yourself now and become an even stronger person..find healing in knowing you're doing it for your kids. I don't know if you read the bible but it has lots and lots of scripture on healing the broken hearted. I turn to God for strength because I am weak.
I will pray for you
L

oh my goodness I cannot imagine how much that hurts, but I will pray for you. I wish I could say something brilliant. I cannot. I am sad for you. The only thing I can ask is if that means you will be able to continue to see and be with them even though you are giving up your parental rights. I do not understand it. I hope you will be able to-it is clear how much you love your children. God Bless you.

if you would like to talk email me @ ____@____.com i just went threw a divorce and my two childern wanted 2 stay with there father so i feel like i have lost my world but i could not deal with there father anymore and we was not in love with eachother anymore...hope 2 here from you take care wish you well

I don't understand the arrangement. Are you relinquishing your parental rights to your three boys but it will be an open adoption with this couple who will provide you access of some sort to your sons?

Because you have 3 children, I'm assuming that they are old enough to know who you are and have strong, strong ties with you. They only know you as their Mom. So all the feelings that you're having, they are as well. You can be lonely in a crowded room. The missing them, the yearning for them, I don't think you will get over or be done with. You will always have this ache, they hold a huge part of your heart. I would hope that the tribal court makes counseling a conditiion of this open adoption for you and for the new family. Your sons will need help as they navigate this journey without you, and you will need the help to go on without them. It's natural for you to ache tremendously, you were/are their Mom and it's not normal to lose your children.
Seek out help soon to make this work for all involved.

why would you give you children up my daughter is my life i would never ever give her up i would fight and fight for her and i would do any thing i could to fix it im my eyes you gave up wow any one can give up but it takes a really Mother to be a mommy.