My Almost 7 Year Old Grabbing Himself

When you are alone with your son: Ask him quite calmly, without sounding like you are mad or upset... tell him you've been noticing what he does and ask if he realizes it. If he says "no." Ask him if he can try to be aware.. and maybe do it less.. or be more discreet. If he DOES realize it... maybe he'll offer an explanation (does it itch? or does it just plain bother him or what?)

I have a three year old that will do this frequently... he is ultra-sensitive which only makes a normally sensitive area well.. doubly sensitive.

If it sounds like it could be a medical issue.. seek out his doctor - but don't make too big a deal out of it if it is a heightened sensitivity issue.. just ask him plainly to be more careful when and where he does it.

[smiling] I have to say that before I became the mom of three boys I looked at the mothers of obnoxious little hellions with dismay. NOW I understand that those mothers actually made huge strides in civilizing their boys just based on the fact that they aren't holding their penises in public!

Okay. Okay. I'm exaggerating a little bit. (But not THAT much!)

I believe this is a soothing behavior. When you notice it, do not draw attention to it. You need to substitute this behavior with another behavior that will distract and soothe him. (I use Thomas the Tank Engines for my little guy. When I notice that he's holding himself, I "find" a train in my pocket or purse and ask him to hold onto it for me for a minute. When I don't have a train, I'll ask him to hold my keys, carry something, etc.)

Please whatever you do don't tell him it's bad or wrong as it can have damaging effects (I know that's what my parents did with only the best intentions in mind). Just something that should be done in his room if he wants to.

I like what Marta had to say about it.