My 1Yr Old Fell at Daycare, Now Has a Scar, and I Am Struggling to Deal with It.

I have absolutely no thoughts on how to deal with a day-care. Just to put your mind at ease about the scar. When I was 2 or 3, I feel off, head first, off the top of a slide. Of course, this was back in the seventies when they didnt even use carseats. I busted my forehead open on the cement that they used to imbed the slide into the ground. After a trip to the ER and many stitches, the scar on my head was only noticeable for a couple of years. Now, at 37, unless you really, really look, you cant tell its there. It is most likely that this will fade. Also, unlike back in my day, you can put a scar reducer on there to help minimize the appearance.
Good Luck to ya!!
Margaret :)

You are right accidents do happen, but i dont think its too much to ask for a followup. I worked in a daycare when i was younger and appreciate those concerned parents. i would request some sort of followup. i doubt they will reject it. its VITAL that the communication is open between you and your daycare.....

mother of two...5 mths and 1 year.

My daughter fell two months ago walking to our car after dinner and busted her head open on our car muffler. It was a crazy freak accident and she had to have stitches as well. She now has a scar and I'm putting mederma on it but it's still pink and noticeable. I'm a stay at home mom and it still happened. The point is that kids will be kids and fall no matter what. I'm sure the daycare feels terrible about it. I worked in daycares for years and I never saw a follow up meeting with a parent unless the parent requested one. I think it was probably just an accident and would let it go. I'm sure it probably shook her teachers up a little bit too knowing that a child they greatly care about got hurt under their care. Maybe you should think about taking them a little thank you gift so they know you're not mad and still appreciate them?

You will be AMAZED at how well, and how quickly these little guys heal! I have also struggled with scars on my kids' faces, and then only 6 months later, TOTALLY FORGOTTEN, BARELY SEEN! Let it go.
Love,
L.

Your child is going to fall and hurt herself, even in your own house she will. No place can be 100% safe unless you keep her in a padded room. I would think your daycare would have some sort of policy where at least a report is filed when a child is hurt, however, for liability purposes. Its odd that they don't appear to. I can't imagine them having a meeting every time a child gets hurt, but at least put a report in her file.

Is the injury something that could have happened if she was in your house and your care? If so, I wouldn't go any further with it. If not. Find someone that will care for your child like you would. Some accidents do just happen and no amount of attention and prevention. Personally I've never heard of a one year old falling into ANYTHING hard enough to need stitches, so I just don't know. Did you see the window sill where this happened? Is it covered now? If nothing has changed I would probably start looking elsewhere.
There is a good chance that this meeting occurred without you being there. But someone should have told you the findings.
I had a home daycare in Indiana. In this case I would have filed a report with my licensing agency. The parent is given a "booboo report" which states what happened and what injuries occured and what was done to prevent it next time-if it could be prevented, but not the offical report. (Though if someone asked, I would have showed them.) The only thing I would not tell a parent is the name of the other children envlved if there was another child involed. (I could say Suzie was pushed into the window sill but another child, just not give the name for privacy issues.)

Day cares are what they are. Some are better than others, but, in the long run, it's still a ratio of 4:1 or 8:1 when it comes to care for your child. This means that things are going to happen that some parents are not going to like. I say this becuase my oldest child had one bad experience after another no matter how much research I did on each placement.

In one a child bit her so badly he not only left marks, but drew blood. Keep in mind this was not an isolated episode for the attacker, and certainly not the first time he chose my child to attack. I was very put off when the child was not asked to remain at home until his biting habit could be brought under control...I removed my child instead.

In one home care situation, as a toddler, she was not found climbing the wooden childgate until she tumbled with it and ended up with scrapes and bruising so bad I was afraid of being accused of abusing her in public.

I did have some good experiences with child care and found that the one I liked best, where my child had the least problems, was one that while expensive, did offer the ability for me to check on my child via a website connection to a classroom camera.

I don't know if this helps you, but keep in mind, as bad as what happened is, you could be an unfortunate mom of one of the many children from daycares across the nation (including two where I live) that have closed in the last several years due to molestation charges.

The best you can do is talk to the Day Care administration about your concerns regarding the incident and if you do not like their answers, remove your child and research another placement for her.

I am sorry your child had a bad experience. I know what it's like and how frustrated and powerless to change it, you feel.

Good Luck